Post # 1
My FI and I have been in sort of a sexual rut lately. Neither of us are happy with our bodies at the moment, it’s cold and dreary, we’re cranky, we’re busy and sex feels like a chore more often than not.
I decided even though we don’t celebrate V-day to pick a Saturday night and surprise him with a night in a hotel complete with hot tub and a nice dinner. Maybe a change of scenery is in order.
Then, for some reason, over the weekend I couldn’t get enough of him! I think it was b/c we went shopping for menswear and he was being so decisive and helpful, then they put him in a tux for measurement and I just lost it! We had sex on the couch out of nowhere. The next day, he was getting in the shower and I surprised him with oral which led past that. We couldn’t help but laugh bc, well, he had to sit on the toilet seat for us to git er done, and we’d never done that before!
I’m hoping this new found energy is here to stay! We were both in exceptionally good moods for the remainder of the weekend
Has anyone hit a plateau in the bedroom before? What did you do to get yourself out of it?
Post # 3
You know what it probably is? A mix in your routine. It seems like you were in a regular routine lifestyle and things can get boring that way….if you change it up just in the slightest…that sets the bar for many amazing things to come 😉
Post # 4
Absolutely! He really threw me for a loop in that tux fitting!
I was especially surprised b/c we went to just “look” at vest colors to help me decide on bridesmaid colors. He told me what he liked and didn’t like, and he ended up picking the same color I initially had my eye on for the girls w/out even knowing. It always puts me in a fantastic mood when we knock something else off the list regarding planning!
Post # 5
YEP. Changing it up is the way to go. Lately all FI has had to do is just kiss me real passionately and I’m ready to go!
My MOH actually just bought me a toy – kinda as a wedding gag gift, but FI thinks it’s totally hot to use it on me. That REALLY helped!
Post # 6
@ShabbyChicBee: Yup, that’s why I’m thinking our hotel adventure will be awesome. It’s been a while since we got “away” since we’re saving every dime for the wedding.
PS I see your name is ShabbyChic…do you have any pics of your decor/inspiration to post? I’m doing a rustic/fall/vintage thing, too. I’d love to see what you’re doing!
Post # 7
HAHAHA we should swap usernames because I am totally doing the burlap and lace theme! Everything in my house is Shabby Chic though, poor FI. The only reason i didn’t it for the wedding is because I didn’t want to get tired of it!
I don’t have any pics on me right now, but I am using a bunch of lace doilies that my mom has collected over the years to give it that shabby chic feel. When I made my centerpeices, I filled the vases with burlap material before putting the flowers in there. Basically its a;; shades of green and the woodsy burlap and lace stuff. They look similiar to the pic below:
Post # 8
OP, I think that what you experienced this past weekend is totally normal. My husband and I go through the same thing. Usually we have sex really regularly, but then sometimes we’ll go a whole week without having it. We both get tired, stressed out, too busy, etc. Everything you’re saying! But I think that’s normal. Because we still (like you) have the times where we’ll do it 2 or 3 times in a weekend (or even in one day…hehe) because we’re just more in-sync than usual. A lot of people get around this by PLANNING when to have sex, but I just can’t get into that. It feels like a business meeting and not a spontaeous, sexy, fun time. So I’m totally fine with our “life rhythm” that ebs and flows. Summertime is always better…more daylight = more energy. 😉