Post # 1
Hi. Any advice what to ask? I have some general questions but I hope you may have others I haven’t thought of. I’m moving in on 40 and Darling Husband and I have been trying 16 mths. We have both been tested and fall into the “good” category for everything.
Post # 3
I just had my first IUI. I did ask how much it costs…but did not get enough detail and it is ended up costing a lot more than I thought it would. The doctor told me it would be $300 which I thought was a totally good deal. But what I have come to find out that this $300 is only for her services. There was still another $125 in drugs plus DHs SA and washing which we haven’t been charged for yet! I think it will end up being about $1,000 per round. My first suggestion is to ask how much total it will cost.
Second I would ask if there will be any limitations put on you during the TWW. I was not allowed to exercise at all during the TWW. I had signed up for a 5K race (I am a runner) and was not allowed to do this. This was just a shock that I wasn’t expecting.
Also ask if your Darling Husband can be in the room with you during the IUI. My Darling Husband sat in the waiting room while I had it done. I would have liked him in there for a little moral support, plus you have to lay there for a little bit afterwards so it would be nice to have company.
That’s all I can think of now, but I’ll update this if I can think of more.
Post # 4
@Wispy: I agree with everything that funnybunny has already listed. Here are some other thoughts.
I would really encourage you to ask for a complete breakdown of anticipated cost (both for IUI and IVF). Ours IUI also ended up to be more expensive because I ended up stimming longer than expected. I wasn’t fully aware how expensive fertility drugs (especially injectables) are and what difference a day or two can make.
Have them take you step by step through the full process of an IUI or IVF. What meds are involved? How many times will you be monitored? Also figure out what happens if your IUI/IVF falls on a weekend? Will they be able to take you in?
Maybe get the specificis of your meds so you can shop around in case your insurance doesn’t cover anything. It might also be good to get an idea what protocol he wants to put you on for an IVF cycle (short/long) so you know how long it’s going to take. Also do they have a waiting list for any of the procedures or can you call in any CD1 to get started?
I wish you all the best and hope your appt goes really well!!! Keep us posted!
Post # 5
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I’m trying to remember back when we first started going to the RE. Those first few visits we were so overwhelmed and confused… I’m not sure we asked any of the right questions! I do remember that our RE gave us a lot of the answers in her talk, so that was good.
Basically you want to know what they recommend for you (treatment plan, given your test results and everything) and why. I think you would want to know what their success rates are. And make sure you’re not only looking at getting pregnant, but at live birth as well. The two numbers are rarely the same, and I’m thinking one of them is more important to you. Also in general, how the processes they’re recommending for you work.
If cost is also a concern, you want to know about any further tests you have to have done, the procedures and everything required for them (including labs, ultrasounds, and semen preparation), and medications. Some clinics have financing or even shared risk programs that you might want to ask about.
Hours on weekends and holidays are important. Are they ever closed? If so, what do you do when they are closed? Who will be your primary point of contact? Will you always be seeing the same people or will you be seeing whoever is on duty at the time? (Not that it’s a problem either way but it can just be good to be prepared for that.) Are all procedures done on site?
I think I’m out of questions now. I went to a larger clinic so maybe some of those things won’t apply to you. But maybe some of them will. Anyway, I hope it helps.
Post # 6
I think a lot of the details will depend a lot on your specific situation and on the clinic. Some may be out of your control…I go to a very large REI clinic so I feel like there’s not much point asking that many questions in advance because they do everything the same for everyone anyway (sad but true). But one thing I wish I had asked was about communication with your doctor. Will you be able to communicate directly with your doctor? By phone? By email? Is there an answering service? How quickly do they call you back? I’ve learned that at my clinic I can’t talk to the doctor directly except in face to face appointments (which is doubly strange since I am a doctor in the same hospital system)…instead, there is a nurse answering line and I often have to call 5 times to get anyone to call me back. So, I sort of wish I had known about that. All the other suggestions of things to ask about are go
Post # 7
Oops, my message got cut off. I was just going to say that all of the other suggestions people gave were good too!
The other thing I found useful to ask was what day the payment was due (at my clinic it’s due in full on the first day of “monitoring” for your IVF cycle…I wouldn’t have figured that if I hadn’t asked).
Post # 8
@Wispy: Hi my dear. Hope your appt went well. Any updates you want to share?