Post # 1
So far, I’ve been pretty laid back. Everything’s been going as planned, and we’re 3 days away from the big day!!
FI tells me that one of his groomsmen just informed him that he can not afford to pay his remaining amount on his tux rental. He basically was asking FI for it, and FI told him we couldn’t pay for it because we payed for part of the wedding ourselves and paid for our honeymoon, plus we also paid for his dads tuz rental and helped his sister with his nephew’s tux rental. The groomsman said he’d figure something out.
Then, he texts me and tells me that he already has a tuxedo and wanted to know if he could wear that, and just pay to rent the matching vest and tie that the other groomsmen have. I’ve never seen his tuxedo so I told him to take it to the store and compare it to the rental and if it was close enough, then fine, wear your tux. He told me he was going up there last night to compare them.
Today he tells me that apparently he wore the tuxedo jacket to a party at a girl’s house and left it there, and he’s still trying to get up with the girl to get it back.
I’m so aggravated and frustrated. He’s known about this for 7 months. He could have made payments, but he didn’t. He even had another groomsman pay his deposit so the tux could be ordered by the deadline. I understand not everyone has money, but he works. This is the only thing he’s had responsibility for. At this point, I’m not sure if he’ll even be in the wedding or not. ugh!
Post # 3
Don’t stress 🙂 If he shows up in the tux, great. If not, whatever. The wedding party has pretty much three responsibilities:
1-show up on time
2-show up clean and at least halfway sober
3- show up IN THE APPROPRIATE ATTIRE.
ETA- I meant to further state that if he fails to meet any one of the three requirements, then he is obviously taking himself out of the wedding party. There’s not a lot you can do about it at this point. I hope everything works out and nobody gets you all stressed out on your wedding day!
Post # 4
I am just going to say that even though someone works, their money could be “spent” before they even get their checks. Things come up, there are a lot more important things to pay off than a tuxedo.
Post # 5
If he doesn’t show up in his tux, he has removed himself from the wedding party. End of story, but not the end of the world.
While it is frustrating, you never know the details of someone else’s finances. Take a deep breath, remember what is truly important about the day, and let it go.
Post # 6
What a jackass. Don’t be texting the bride a week before her wedding about how you couldn’t get your bullshit together
Post # 7
If he doesn’t show up in the proper attire, then he needs to go. Everyone has other things to spend their money on, but if he knew he wouldn’t have the money, he should have told you sooner than 3 days before the wedding day. That’s low.
Post # 8
@Hyperventilate: I completely understand that…however, FI and I do know way too much about his finances, and he *could* have paid off the tux over the last 7 months. Also, like a PP said, he should have just told us to begin with that he couldn’t afford it.
It definitely won’t ruin our wedding day. I’m actually fine with it if he can’t be in the wedding…I’m just frustrated with his irresponsibility. I also just wish I knew about this before now.
@MrsTVLover: AMEN!! 🙂