I've been engaged for 3 weeks…and already I'm over it!!! (rant)

posted 1 year ago in Family
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Busy bee

you keep saying that you don’t have a say in it because you’re not paying for it…

NONE of the big ticket items aside from the venue am I or FI paying for, the rest is all family.

It’s YOUR wedding day and you need to step in

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Bumble bee

If I were in your situation, I would elope in a heartbeat.  Or pay for your own wedding.

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Busy bee

I wouldn’t want money from people who spoke to/about me or my SO like that. 

Okay, you might lose support – from people who are nice so long as they’re getting what they want. Their support vs your happiness – what really matters? And apologies if this is a bit blunt but what support do you mean? Emotional? I’m really sorry but that’s not support, it’s manipulation. And if you mean financial, well, is it worth the price?

Take it from someone who married out of her religion. You CANNOT please everyone, so you may as well please yourself. 

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Busy bee

You’re not walking out on them if you refuse to let them take over your wedding.

Have you talked to your FI about all this?

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Bumble bee

Being a New Zealander I am totally on your husbands side…hahaha..This sounds messy.Ever thought of a family meeting with you,your FI and parents? Weddings are about a union between two who love each other. You need to enjoy your day and they are spoiling it!!!!

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Busy bee

Elope or start to stand up for yourself..you’re letting your family walk all over you, girl!!! This is nor healthy… Cut some tight ties and remember this is about YOU and your FI

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