- Blog
- Bios
- Boards
- Classifieds
- DIY
- Gallery
- Vendor Reviews
- Shop Weddingbee
Weddingbee boards
What are you missing? Nothing.
Well - you're missing out on spending the next several months with a rabid bridezilla.
Required spray tans? Please. I would have laughed in her face.
She's going to feel very stupid once the wedding is over and she trudges reluctantly back to reality land. It will be up to you to decide if you want to forgive her or not.
You should be happy she kicked you out of the wedding and probably the freindship..
Clearly she is an unreasonable person and not a friend! I'm so sorry you are going through this!
All you're missing is that it isn't worth it to put up with her.
Seriously? I would have been so done with someone like that. And I don't think your son should be her ringbearer (nope, don't care that that may leave her without one) and I definitely don't think you should go to her wedding, send a gift/card, or contact this psycho-bride again. Not worth it.
You sound like a nice girl, a considerate friend, and if your side of the story is an accurate depiction, then it's her loss. And not "listening to her fiance?" That's offensive. You're an adult.
"Required" spray tans?! The PP's are right, this woman is a bridezilla. Don't bother going to the wedding and feel sorry for her fiancee. That poor guy has to spend the rest of his life with a woman who places more value in tanning and hair than actual relationships. That will get her real far in life.
With a friend like that who needs enemies? I dont know the girl and if she was always a drama queen...but a friend would have tried to work it out
You were more then understanding. It is she who is rude and without class. A bride does not demand her wedding party get spray tans and their own make-up. This is something the bride should offer if it is that important to her. I suspect she is gonna run into problems with other members of her party and feel stupid when nobody wants to participate.
Sounds like she was just being nice to get the dress from you.
It was worth the 150 to get rid of her.
Dont offer your son as ring bearer. Ditch her.
Sounds like she did you a huge favor, although unintentionally so. She is really being unreasonable and I predict with that attitude, she will be lucky to have anyone left in her bridal party by the time the big day rolls around. You were definitely the bigger person in this situation and did all you could; let it go.
There are words for people like this, and I am far too nice to post them here! Hang in there girl, and it sounds like you dodged a bullet.
Sam
Dude my BFF is on the verge of this. She keeps repeatedly telling me I have to tan for the wedding because everyone else is and it won't look good in pictures. I told her no because of the skin cancer history in my family(pale and proud!). Told me I have to buy shoes, I told her no- I'm not buying silver satin peep toes to walk in grass. She now said she's paying for them (fine with me).
I'm with the other ladies. Be happy you don't have to deal with it anymore!
@corimulliken: She texted me back saying "You just don't get it do you". that i am rude and that we will never be friends again. Stop calling, texting and stopping by. That she was about to call me after the 3rd week but because i didn't listen to the fiance's advice of don't call her, and now is not going to call.
I am so sorry you are going through this. When a relationship/friendship unexpectedly ends it's always painful. It must be hard for you, losing her who you thought to be your friend but.................. sorry this Megan bridezilla is b*tsh*t CRAZY!!!! Rude, hurtful, malicious and very offensive. Who does she really think she is and what gives her the right to treat you like this? She can't even come up with / respect you enough to give you a better explanation that saying that YOU don't get it.... Crazy logic is hard to get!
I totally agree with all the PPs before me, especially with everything that AmeliaBedelia said. I would be sooooo done with a "friend" like this. I am angry for you..... this girl does not run on all 6 cylinders that is for sure... and I know you might be missing the friend you used to know... but the best way to go is probably cut all ties and fake it till you make it!
((( HUGS )))
@ViaMinorViator: This!
If this whole situation was not so miserable i could laugh at the picture you painted.
Yes, some people are just like that. Poor fiance but he is digging his own grave. Speaks volumes of him though that he is willing to be the messenger.... I would have told my bride to go and sort it out herself as a grown up person.
I agree with what everyone else has said. I wouldnt worry about her..... she sounds terrible! lol
@corimulliken: She's nuts. End.Of.Story. You lucked out on this one. Never contact her again, don't answer her calls, don't speak to her fiance. If she doesn't want to be friends with you, then you don't have to be. You seem like a normal, nice person who tried to work on the friendship. She seems like a crazy bridezilla who thinks only of herself. How old is she? She has the maturity of a 3 year old who didn't get her way. She'll come crawling back after she realizes she's a child and was ridiculous.
This girl is CRRRAAAZZZY. Required spray tans? Are you kidding me? I would hope one of my bridesmaids would slap me if I ever said that. You're better off without her. Sorry you're dealing with this.
This is a blessing in disguise! I don't understand why women get so carried away with this whole wedding planning stuff..she obviously cares about the wrong things in life..she needs a reality check
hang in there!
I just have NO idea how brides can be like this. Yes, it's an honor to be in somebody's bridal party - but it's also an honor for the bride to have a wedding party that is willing to shell out big bucks and time for HER day. Cost should always be discussed well before a purchase is made...and even if she simply felt you were being rude for bringing the issue up over $30 - that's nothing to ruin a friendship over. She should've pouted about it to her fiance for 5 minutes and then moved on. So, so childish.
wow. just wow. i'm sorry you are having to deal with this. You should send her the link to wedding bee. She seriously needs are reality check about things to expect others to pay for.
The real world will be very cruel to her if she doesn't wake up.
You must log in to post.
| Visit our sister sites | eHarmony Online Dating |
eHarmony Advice Dating Advice |
Project Wedding Wedding Songs |
JustMommies Pregnancy Calendar |
Create the honeymoon of your dreams.
| User | Posts Today |
|---|---|
| Lyndzo | 52 |
| Brielle | 41 |
| mypinkshoes | 34 |
| his chippymunk | 32 |
| Cady | 32 |
| fivemonthsnotice | 32 |
| TheLionQueen | 31 |
| AshleyR83 | 30 |
| This Time Round | 30 |
| ndreighton | 27 |
| User | Posts Today |
|---|---|
| LammChop | 11 |
 deborah.dehlinger |
10 |
| gizzy123 | 5 |
| superfashionista23 | 3 |
| ticklemepink | 3 |
| raspberry bride | 3 |
| TwoCityBride | 3 |
| saintsation79 | 3 |
| funkymunky85 | 3 |
| janetsnakehole | 3 |
Megan and I have been friends for about 2 years. She has helped me move, taken care of my kitty when i'm away. I've helped her with her cats on a couple of occasions, dropped things at the drop of the hat to listen to her cry, made her dinner on several occasions, ...point is, we did things for each other. Friends.
She asked me to be in her wedding which is next April. No costs were discussed, i had been in 8 weddings so far so i knew of the general idea of what it would cost. Immediately we started the forward motion of buying dresses, making favors, ect....She also wanted my son in the wedding as a ring bearer.
When i got the text "Hey everyone, I bought every one jewelry to wear at the wedding, $30, so you can just pay me the next time you see me", i got a little uncomfortable. The wedding was still 7 months away and I just wanted to be sure of what i needed to save up for this, I had two of us in the party and was thinking i'd like to plan for any expenses "expected" of me, since i'd never been required to buy jewelry before.
So i called her, i explained and just asked for a heads up on what she was expecting, i didn't like getting texts that said i "owed" her, it made me feel a bit like a walking ATM machine. I did this politely, calmly. I got responses like "What? You didn't think i was going to have you wear jewelry?!" and " I wish i had known this before you bought the dress, now how am i going to find someone else?!" and "You don't even appreciate that i bought your pizza the other night!"...totally missing my point.
My phone battery died and that's the last time we talked because she will not talk to me. Meanwhile she has enlisted her fiance to be the messenger . He told me: "we'd like to have the dress back because we are worried that this will come between us and we love you and want you and your son to come to the wedding but we don't want you to go broke, there are alot of other expenses that you will be responsible for, ie. hair, makeup $60, spray tan, bacelorette party, and we have made the decision to take you out of the wedding party."...oohh-kaay. I could afford it, i just wanted to know what we were expected to pay for, which was obviously more than i was used to. We were "required" to pay for makeup, hair, spray tan, matching jewelry shoes and dress. at this time since Megan wouldn't talk to me I figured it was more than that of why she was angry with me, although i couldn't really figure out why. Her fiance told me not to call her, that she will call me when she is ready to talk to me. when the fiance picked up the dress the next day, he was going to give me money for it without me asking. I refused, said Megan is always strapped for money, just take the dress and have the gift of the cost of the dress $150 to pay one of her bills or something. He thanked me and left.
Five weeks later, not a word. I have called 3 or 4 times, texted, stopped by their house when they were obviously home and they wouldn't even answer the door. This angered me. I had just tried to be nice throughout this whole thing and i was being treated like a was a crazy. So i did something i guess i shouldn't have: I asked for the money for my dress. The next day, the Fiance showed up with the dress, handed it to me and left without a word.
I left a final message that said if you don't call me back i guess i'm going to assume we're not friends. I left one final text that said, that this is a perfectly good friendship being thrown away and that i'm very hurt by her not talking to me, that i'm not sure why she's treating me like this. That i am happy to bring my son to be the ring bearer, i will pay for his tux and everything and then quietly leave after the ceremony. "Hope you're well. Merry Christmas"
She texted me back saying "You just don't get it do you". that i am rude and that we will never be friends again. Stop calling, texting and stopping by. That she was about to call me after the 3rd week but because i didn't listen to the fiance's advice of don't call her, and now is not going to call.
My question is:
What am i missing here. You can be blunt with me. I considered her a good friend. Does wedding planning stress out people so much that they do this kinda thing? or am i really in the wrong here.
P.S. Megan's mom and dad are paying for the entire wedding, every drop.