(Closed) Ive bever felt this way in MY LIFE! (its kinda long!)

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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177 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I’m so sorry you are going through this. The advice I have is way easier said than done. I had a very long (two year) rough patch with my man’s family, and honestly, the only way I survived it is by distancing myself as much as possible, making sure he had my back, and by being myself. I tried to be nice even when I felt like socking them, and they mellowed a little. Stuff isn’t perfect by any means, but I’m more confident and comfortable in my own skin.

Good luck with this, and you always have the bee and your man. 🙂

Post # 4
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6893 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

First off, that SUCKS about the drama. So unnecessary of ALL of them! :/

But seriously, I second what @hsaas91: said. I think that you need to be wary of who actually said what, because this sounds like a very “he said, she said” kind of situation and you know you will NEVER get the whole story from that.

From here on out, I think that the important thing is that you and your FI should always appear united to whichever family. Even if you are having a bad day as a couple…I wouldn’t show it to anyone in the family. I don’t. We keep that to ourselves and I think it would be beneficial for you guys because it sounds like your families will prey on those “bad” days. Ya know?

It sucks, but it’s family. We all have to learn how best to deal with our family and future family and it’s not always the easiest.

— Also – why would anyone say you were just a little girl? Is there a big age gap or something that would make someone say that?

Post # 5
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2053 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Argh! How frustrating for you! I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this. Agreed on the above posts.

 

It is gossip, pure and simple, meant to manipulate you and your situation. How dare anyone attempt to destroy your happiness for their own personal gain or for what they perceive to be best for you! Seriously? Thanks for the concern, family, but enough is enough! You and your fiancé are in love and will marry. Everyone else is just going to have to grow up and respect YOU for once, your decision as a couple, and your most important upcoming wedding date. Take no part in the gossip: if it comes up, politely excuse yourself, walk out of the room if necessary, hang up the phone if necessary — you and your man are above it and will stand together against it. Keep a tight lid on your wedding plans and allow no one to pass judgment upon you in such a disrespectful way. A great phrase to have on hand? “I appreciate your love as a family member. Thank you for your concern. I will take that into consideration and wish to discuss something else now.” THE END! Good luck to you! 🙂

 

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