Post # 1
So.. I’ve gained a little weight recently (about 6 pounds during the last year), just due to becoming comfortable with my DH and not worrying too much about food vs. exercise..
Anyway recently we started TTC, 4 months so far, no luck yet, and a friend just asked me if I was pregnant (quote ”You look pregnant on that recent facebook photo”). Am I right in thinking that’s a really rude question? 🙁 I think I find it even more offensive than I would normally find it, because I would actually like to be pregnant!
I would just never ask anyone that in a million years!
Clearly I am now going to try and lose those 6 pounds.
Post # 2
um yeah thats definately rude!!!!!!<br />I had a friend to do that to me on a picture, i THOUGHT i looked good in, like my belly looked thin from the side kinda thing, and shes the first one that liked and posted ‘Baby bump?”
I said lmao no, but thanks!
Post # 3
amanda3334455: That is EXTREMELY rude, whether you are pregnant or not!
Post # 4
Very rude. Even if you were pregnant.
Post # 5
Of course it’s rude. I’ve been asked that too, when I was 17 and in a perfectly normal weight. Made me feel really bad. I mean, no one has a flat stomach in real life, grow up.
Post # 6
- Wedding: An amazing castle. August 2015
Yes very rude. I’ve also put on weight over the past few years and unfortunately it’s all settled on my belly :-/ I’ve had 2 people ask me if I’m pregnantand I was mortified. I might add that these people were complete strangers, I was really upset about it.
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016
That’s super rude and exactly what I’m nervous about. I gained about 6 pounds since our wedding 6 months ago and I’m worried that someone will comment on it and ask if I’m pregnant. Pregnant or not, that kind of comment is always rude and inappropriate.
Post # 8
Definitely definitely rude!!! People should learn never to assume if someone is pregnant.
After I gave birth to DD, an acquaintance asked me if I was pregnant again. Mind you, DD was only 3 months old at the time.
I died inside lol.
Post # 9
Rude! But people are people, so I wouldn’t ruminate on it if I were you, and I certianly wouldn’t make it a goal to lose weight simply because of that comment. Hah.
If it makes you feel any better, a stranger (woman in her…40s I’m guessing) saw me sitting at my desk and thought I was my MALE boss who is 11 years older than me. Thanks lady. And totally didn’t apolozige when she realized I was not a man nor was I the person she was looking for. What.
Post # 10
WTF??? Your friend had some serious balls! Who asks that??? How rude. I don’t think she would be considered my friend. If IF I ever suspected someone being pregnant I would discuss with my husband about how I thought blank blank was pregnant, not flat out ask her. I remember when I was pregnant and I was about 17 weeks along and someone finally asked my husband “Is pinkcorsage pregnant?” And he didn’t want to lie, so he said yes. Not surprisingly we publically announced a few weeks later with the gender. But I would be highly offended if someone asked me and thought that was appropriate.
Post # 11
Thanks for the confirmation ladies 🙂
I did think it was pretty rude..
Oh well, I will just ignore it.. as someone wrote, people are people.. luckily she doesn’t live in the same city as me so it’s not like I have to see her often.
Post # 12
Earlier this year a bunch of women from work started rumours that I was pregnant and everyone kept pointedly looking at my tummy, including my worried looking boss. One day at the end of a staff meeting under Any Other Business I said I’m not pregnant I’ve just put on weight. Too many pies and one hand in the biscuit tin. But, I’ve taken on board all the rumours and the looks and have joined a spinning class. Thanks all for bringing my weight to my attention.
A pin dropping would have sounded like a bomb in that room. I think they were hoping I’d leave the room but I continued to sit contentedly through the horrifying silence. Eventually my boss attempted an apology.
Rude! But now no one will look at me below the level of my face lol…
Post # 13
mrs.j.d.: haha awesome, well done you!!
Post # 14
How have people not learned that you never ever assume a woman is pregnant based on how she looks?? It’s so rude and hard to redeem yourself once that Pandora’s box is opened. Sorry, OP
Post # 15
Had that happen so many times in my life. I carry my little
bit of weight on my tummy. People are just rude, I would never say that to someone ever. Wish I had the guts to say something back but i just freeze. Just ignore them and know that they obviously lack manners and social skills