Post # 1
Most of our guests are local however I have some family members who are from out of state. Is it too early right now for me to send STDs? What if I just send Save-The-Date Cards to the Out of Town guests first and then wait until 6 months prior to send out the rest of the Save-The-Date Cards. Is that a good idea?
Post # 3
send them all now. i’m sending my december wedding save the dates at the end of next month.
Post # 4
@chewah: The rule is 6-8 months. Majority of my guests are out of town and I think we did ours around 6-7.
Post # 5
You’ll definitely want to send them all together because if one family member mentions it to another, the other may think they’re not invited!
I sent mine 10 months early because over 50% of my guests will have to travel from out of state or out of the country. I also included a link to the website with all of the booking and travel information, and 20 people have already booked their hotel rooms!
Post # 6
I can always count on you Bees to give me a quick response. Thanks! 🙂
@sunsetchristy: That is a great point! I haven’t thought of that. Thanks!
Post # 7
I lean against sending save-the-date notices altogether: I find them cold and impersonal, and a little bit pushy. You know how badly Bees take it, when a bride decides to send out pre-printed generic thank-you notes instead of personal hand-written ones? I consider save-the-date brochures in a similar albeit less egregious light.
Traditionally the good news about your upcoming wedding and your plans was shared in a handwritten personal note. Nowadays, personal notes are written in (individual) emails or (private) Facebook messages, but they are still more personal than a mass-mailing pre-event advertisement. If I were you I would send individual notes to those out-of-town guests of yours so that you don’t have to worry about synchronizing your save-the-date mailings.
Post # 8
I think you’re giving everyone just the right amount of notice!
Post # 9
You do not have to send out Save-The-Date Cards at all. Save-The-Date Cards can lock you in, you MUST invite everyone who gets a STD. I advocate minimizing number. Read threads here, people have guests coming out of the woodwork.
Post # 10
Definitely read this as a sexually Transmitted diseaSe problem! Glad that is not the case!! Haha!
Post # 11
@hollyberry4: Me too! haha!
OP: I would send them out all at the same time.
Post # 12
@hollyberry4: Yeah it’s taking me a really long time to get used to seeing STD and Bridesmaid or Best Man thrown around. Still makes me giggle.