- 4 years ago
This is kind of long, but here’s what I realized a few months ago that I’m very content/happy with so I want to share it:
I’m 20. I’ve been dating my boyfriend for six years, and I wake up every morning giddy and head over heels in love (after 6 years —> yes, we were 14 when he asked me to be his girlfriend). I used to want to get married SO BAD. We thought we’d do it in college, and just work really hard to support ourselves, and it would be hard, but we’d do it together.
But then I was like WAIT. So here’s my new revelation:
Life is about cherishing moments and seasons and joys. Right now, I am in the season of college. I LOVE college. Why would I do anything to rush out of this joyous season of my life, just to make it harder??
Getting engaged is another season, another joy. But when you stack two joyous seasons on top of eachother, each individual joy isn’t as special anymore. I want each joy/season/occasion to each be very special and not steal eachothers thunder! I have two friends getting married the day after graduation. That just seems like they’re not going to cherish graduation as much because there’s too much going on with their wedding!
So, I am now living my life soaking up every moment and season. I’m going to be in college and I’m going to soak up the joy (even though it’s VERY hard most of the time!)
Then, after college, Daniel and I can get engaged, and I’ll soak up that joy. Then, many many years later, we may have ourselves a baby (or four :). Of course, all of these occasions are also hard and can be stressful as well, which is another reason I don’t necessarily want them to overlap.
What do you think? Do you agree? Were you ever in the same situation as me? My mom said that come senior year, a lot of girls are going to start getting rings on their fingers, and I’ll need to stay super strong waiting. I’d love to hear your support and/or contraditions!