Post # 1
As someone who works in law enforcement, I can be diplomatic when I have to be, but the truth is, I tell it like it is because I”m used to being able to say how things are going to go, etc in my job….
This wedding business is making me crazy and I’m tired of taking in people’s “suggestions”:
– SIL won’t stop trying to invite randoms to our wedding, like the grandmother of her husband (we dont’ know her) because, she “wants them there to support” her.
– MOH doesn’t want to plan a b-rette because she has a kid and thinks throwing me a pool party is the best option (I wrote a post about this this weekend too!)
– FMIL insists that her entire family be part of EVERYTHING – bridal photos, rehearsal dinner, but my family isn’t invited because of cost.
I’m going to start saying “no” and people aren’t going to like it….I can feel it bubbling up and it’s not going to be pretty. I won’t be mean but I won’t be wavering in my decisions…..is this bad?
Post # 3
nope perfectly normal. Its call stress and for some people. typical family. Keep your chin up! look after you.. so take time out, do something you enjoy. Step away from wedding stuff for awhile and focus on the marriage itself. That will ground you.
Post # 5
I think if more brides put their foot down and held firm, then we would have a lot less drama posts!
You go girl, NO NO NO NO!!!!
Post # 6
Go for it! The power of “NO” is definitely a necessity in wedding planning. Use it well!
Post # 7
@med700: I don’t think it is bad at all. Unless they are paying for something, they really don’t have any say in whatever it is you are making a decision on. They can offer suggestions, but you don’t have to use their suggestions. The sooner you put your foot down, the better, IMHO.
Post # 8
I’m just now getting to the point where I’m starting to say no so I can tell you that you’ll have to say it a lot whether you want to or not. Might as well start now, but before you do make sure that you get off the phone or wait a minute befroe responding to an email, take a deep breath and walk away and do something else so you can calm down and don’t lash out. Believe me, some of these people will make you ugly.
Post # 9
FI has told me that he’s starting to think his new name is no. It’s an incredible word 🙂
Post # 10
I think it’s about time to unleash the “NO” beast! I wish I would have done this sonner, it’s very effective and there is a lot less discussion/arguments over what other people think we should be doing.
On a side-note, I totally think you should wear your enforcement uniform while telling people “no”. Seriously, I bet nobody would mess with you then!