- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
I really just need to vent about this to somebody, I’m so sorry that I’m constantly bombarding the boards with my passive aggressive in law hate.
To cut a long story short, I’ve come to the end of my tether with my FIs family. They’re rude, inconsiderate arseholes whose shortcomings have been amplified ever since we told them we were eloping. After a face off with his sister this weekend regarding her telling me I had to come to one of his extended family’s barbecues (I had no knowledge of it whatsoever and had made plans with my friends) otherwise everyone would think I’m a bitch, I have decided to just retreat from the family entirely and leave him to it.
This weekend was the british bank holiday and i planned to go to an outdoor gig with my friends and received a phonecall that morning from said sister, informing me that FMIL had assured the family that myself and FI would be in attendance. i replied blithely, ‘oh i think we are going to see some bands, have fun though.’ the barbecue was a ‘going away’ party for a cousin who is going to university IN OUR HOME CITY and IS CONTINUING TO LIVE AT HOME. whhaaaaat?!
So she slammed the phone down on me and called past our house on the way home from her boyfriends house. She shouted at me that I was selfish for stopping my FI for going to the BBQ. I replied that it wasn’t my business what he did, but I had prior plans that included him but that he was welcome to go with her, I didn’t mind at all. She then outright demanded that I come, saying ‘my mum said we ALL absolutely HAVE to come, no arguments, okay?’
What the fuck is it with this family? They were weird but bearable up until recently. FI is just weary and offered to go when he got home, after she stormed out. I told him what happened and he said he’d have it out with her, but when he got there she played the whole thing cool and asked if I was ‘annoyed’ with her, as though I’d instigated this argument. He’s playing it down a bit because he’s embarrassed but also thinks I’m exaggerating, but I’m seriously past the point of caring.
I want nothing to do with these people. It’s his family, he can deal with them. All I’ve had is months of shit and frankly, they’re nothing to me. I broke down to him about it the other day and just asked him to keep us separate and he has agreed to do so, but is it really doable?
Sorry for the rant bees, I’m just at my wits end!