- 7 years ago
- Wedding: January 2011
Me and the hubby moved to WA from IL earlier this year. Hubby is a grad student, and I’m currently unemployed. So, we’re struggling a little with the money situation.
We have 2 sets of friends back home who are getting married in September. One on Labor day weekend that we’re both attendants in, the other is on the 24th and I’m in that one.
The friends who are getting married on Labor day were offering to help with travel costs, but MIL offered to buy us plane tickets with some of her FF miles for the Labor day wedding. Hubby ended up taking her up on that, so that leaves the wedding on the 24th.
Hubby is going to be TA-ing that semester and can’t take off for a 2nd time, so I’m planning on taking a train out there, and staying for a week on my own. It’s cheaper than a flight but it’s still a little pricey. (I’m hoping to have a job by then, but I’m not holding my breath.)
Here’s my issue: I love my friend to death, but she is being absoiutely rediculous about everything. She’s picked out BM dresses that are running between $300-$400, booked a salon for makeup and hair that’s going to run at least $120, pricey shoes, etc. In the end, this is going to run me around $1000. Plus, I’m paying for my dress and everything for the other wedding.
I don’t feel as though she is considering everyone else’s budget constraints just because she doesn’t have one herself.
I know that it’s supposed to be an honor to be a BM, and that you’re supposed to pay for things yourself. However, in my wedding, I made an effort to find things that were cheap as possible for my girls and I even paid for what I could.
Is it rude of me to ask her to find something cheaper? Or help with costs, especially since I’m coming all the out there? If she says no, I’m thinking that I can’t afford to be in the wedding.
What do I do? 🙁