Post # 1
I’ve had 3 dresses already.
The first: my sister’s, Too small and can’t be altered
The 2nd: a dress form ebay by lightinthebox. Her measuremnts were mine exactly: only somehow they were not and the dress was too short by a mile
the lastest: a dress that didn’t look formal enough. It’s been officaily retired as wedding dress and is now honeymoon cruise dinner dress. I showed it to Fiance (it’s final nail in the coffen) and he said he loved it for our cruise.
So, What am I going to wear for this thing?
Mermaids are a no: Fiance hates them. I’m thinking I might try on some ball gowns. Ive been to a few shops, but many were full of lace and beading and more lace and frills–that’s just too much!
Anyone else feel defeated durring your journey?
The only thing I keep coming back to is this veil: I’m tempted to just order it and find something to work with it after.
AT least it’s a start-right?
Post # 3
Who are you taking with you? I read your recent post about your mum thinking that a princess gown is what she wants for you. IMO, I don’t feel like you would get an honest opinion from her should you choose another silhouette. I would leave her at home and just show a photo of the beautiful gown you do choose.
And check out the DB website before you go; the web site should have some dresses that pique your interest that you can show your consultant when you get to the store.
Good Luck! Let us know what you find!
Post # 4
In my opinion, you should hold off on getting the veil. Focus on getting the right gown first. I think it’s a little easier to find a veil that matches a gown rather than finding a gown that matches a veil.
I am in the process of shopping for my gown and I know that I want to wear a mantilla veil, but so many dresses that actually look nice on me completely clash with the look of the mantilla.
If you absolutely love this veil you might want to check out Melissa Sweet gowns. They are very romantic and might go with this veil. I would probably err on the side of getting a simple satin gown to go with this veil that is either a-line or fitted.
Post # 5
@Mrs Canuck: I’m taking…no one. My close female frineds live too far, my younger sisters have school and live with mom. I’m NOT taking Mom, and my older sisters and I don’t get along. My FSIL’s are awsome-but live in other states.
It’s just me and my lonesome. It’s a part of what made this dress journey so tough.
@ArtDecoLisa: I won’t lie-I’ll be really disapointed if I don’t wear that veil. But if I found a dress that was perfect that gave me butterfiles maybe I wouldn’t care 🙂
Post # 6
If you get that veil, go with a simplier dress, that way it doesn’t overwhelm the dress. Love the veil by the way.
Post # 7
It will work out in the end. Good call on not taking your mom.
Post # 8
I love this veil, too! I agree with PPs, a simply designed dress would look awesome with that veil!
Good luck with dress shopping! Post pics and we’ll help!!!
Post # 9
@MissFireFlower: Have you considered taking your FI? I’ve known quite a few women that have bucked tradition and taken their future husbands and none of them regret it. Mine didn’t go with me, but I showed him pics of me in lots of dresses and showed him the one I eventually bought because my mother was the worst part of the process and I needed someone that was 100% on my side to help me go through the process. It was nice including him. It’s not for everyone though, I know most people want the surprise element. 🙂 Good luck with this trip, I hope you find your dress!
Post # 10
@MissFireFlower: That might be the most beautiful veil I’ve ever seen. Wow.
Post # 11
@drummerbride: Thanks! It’s mt dream veil. I’ll make sure to take pictures of the veil with me. No beading or embroidery for me 🙂
@MissHobbit: Yeah, after what she pulled-she’s NOT coming. Though I might try on some ball gown style dresses-but that’s because I’m going in with a open mind-NOT becasue I have a need to please her.
@MLDoddie: You guys are my dress squad! I’d be lost w/o my bees
@misspeanut: Fiance doesn’t want to go. he wants the complete suprise of me walking down the aisle. I understand, but a part of me is dissapointed. I could use his help.
@rainbowglitterbride: My jaw dropped to the floor when I saw it. Ive been obsessed ever sence
Post # 12
@MissFireFlower: As someone who is VERY difficult to fit I’m going to say that I understand entirely…my father describes me as a six foot tall, 1950’s bombshell throwback, and they just don’t make clothes for women who are as tall as I am OR they make them for a woman who is that tall and expect her to weigh next to nothing…it sucks….a lot.
That being said, David’s Bridal is the fifth level of hell and those lost and desperate souls that venture in there are doomed to a less than enjoyable retail experience…please don’t!
There are a lot of elegant, simple and affordable options for those that are willing to look, and I agree that buying any garment sight unseen is not a good choice when it comes to a garment as signifigant and special as a bridal gown.
Local bridal salons thrive on word of mouth, jump on the local board and find out who is up to snuff in your neighborhood, they will certainly have some things for you to look at.
Also, remember that just because a designer doesn’t advertise as bridal doesn’t mean they don’t do it…Jessica McLintock is the gown I ended up with, on clearance off the rack, it was simple, long enough and even though I had to take the thing in about 10 inches, it was just what I wanted.
You said a simple ball gown: Here’s one from her https://www.jessicamcclintock.com/product/WEDDING-Long_Bridal_Dresses-21140 it retails for $286.00 and would be a perfect gown to let that amazing veil do the talking!
Post # 13
Maybe a Clare Pettibone dress? If I remember your last post correctly, sheaths weren’t quite right on you though.
The first thing you need to choose is a silouette. Have you tried A line, dropped waist A line, or trumpet dresses? It doesn’t have to be a true mermaid (which really only suit very skinny girls, in my opinion).
After you choose the shape, select the neckline second. THEN ask the bees which dresses meet both criteria! You just need to go to a massive bridal shop and spend all day trying on dresses until you get a better idea of what fits!
Post # 15
That veil is stunning !!!
I also suggest not going to David’s. I went there first, then to a salon that carried everything from a 2 to a 32. David’s was so impersonal and you are rarely your persons only appointment, which if you are going alone, do not count on the sales person being available for you, and you are more or less cut off at the end of your time. The salon I went to, the sales girl never left me, listened to me, and gave me her honest opinion. Please reconsider going to Davids.
Post # 16
you still got timee to shop around… My DB experience was ok.. the dresses did not impress me at all… the materials just felt cheap.. Vera Wang White collection are nicer than the other DB dresses but at the same price point you can find slightly better and larger collections… Mori Lee are very budget friendly (not unless you go with their newer beaded dresses, heard those are going ot be pricey).. but anyways, go to a bridal store and continue your search..
I knwo what you mean when you say you feel defeated… i felt like that after 3 dress shopping experiences… i had to take a 1 month break form wedding shopping… but once i took that break, attended a bridal show and saw some other brides with comperable sizes and their dresses.. i was ready to go back onto my hunt..
I am glad to say i have found 3 dresses i absolutely love!
You will too.. just give yourself some time.. and perhaps a break will help too 😉
by the way, after my shopping break, i went to 3 other stores by myself and found 3 dresses! trust yourself! and take pictures to help you decide at home..