Post # 1
Yes. It is.
One of my friends, let’s call him “Matt” just got engaged (of course, I heard via Facebook). And although I’m happy for him because he has been through SO SO much (health), I can’t help but feel so goddamn hopeless right now. Let me explain:
“Matt” is the type of guy who ALWAYS has a backup g/f. Always. He dates a girl for a year or so and when he gets bored he finds someone else a week later. We (my friends and I) all thought that he’d never get married because he jumps from one girl to another so quickly. Well, now he’s engaged.
“Matt” was off sick for over a year, and I’d imagine he did not get paid very well during that time. So how the hell did he come up with money for a ring? And if HE can do it (afford a ring with barely any money), then why the hell can’t J do that??!? GRRR!!!
And you know what really grinds my gears? (yes, that was a Family Guy reference), one of the jewellery stores here in Canada is having their annual ‘Bridal Set’ sale. I see signs for it everywhere and I feel like it’s really being rubbed in my face.
Darnit. I was doing *so well* with waiting up until now. Shopping tomorrow. That’s for damn sure.
Post # 3
It honestly sounds like you’re hating on him…
Post # 4
I know you’re frustrated but I wouldn’t jump to assumptions about people’s financial situations. It just makes you look bad… sorry 🙁
Post # 5
awww its okay…. its hard waiting… i know… i was there once. 🙁 but he is not ur bf so its unfair to compare the two 🙁 youll get ur day!!! just gotta be patient and keep your mind busy with other things 🙂
Post # 6
Come on girls. Be nice. She is just stressed and looking to vent.
Your time will come. Try to stay positive.
Post # 7
I’m really sorry sweetie, I just hope it ends for you soon.
Post # 8
Aww, try and not let it get to you. I know that’s easier said then done – I would be thinking the same thing. But you’ve got to remember that you can’t control what other people do. Your SO will propose when the time is right.
Post # 9
what i learned the hard way is..don’t try and compare. It’s difficult to do..but it will not do you any good, except feeling sorry for yourself. I think a shopping trip would be nice to get your mind off engagement. And you know..your friend might have found that girl that stuck with him through his difficult time. Hang in there. =)
Post # 10
I’m really sorry you’re feeling this way. While he was off for his medical leave, he could have been on disability with his company. In that case, he would have still been receiving some income, so try not to be too down about it. Your time will certainly come soon. Remember that post you just wrote yesterday about your SO tax refund? You’re moving closer to your goal!
Post # 11
@tranquility: Thanks. Yes, I’m just venting. I can’t really do it anywhere else but here. And no one really understands (or is in the same boat) like the girls on here.
@coffeegal85: I know it will. Just having a rough morning, lol. I’m not as upset as I thought I would be. I’m happy for him, I really am (I know, it doesn’t sound like it. Just feeling a little impatient today). He’s been through a lot (almost died last year) so he deserves all the happiness in the world.
Post # 12
Ditto @tranquility:‘s comment, word for word.
I know the waiting crazies can be icky, but in a couple of days, you’ll be over it, and back on the positive swing of things. I’ve been there, (and still am sometimes) but you know it just as well as I do, @GwenvonD:, this is only a blip on the radar, until things are looking up again. Thus is the roller coaster of waiting. I hate it, and can’t wait ’til it’s over, just like you.
Post # 13
I totally see where you are coming from. I don’t think you are hating on your friend, just giving us some background, so we can see where you are coming from.
I know it sucks. Just try to remember that your relationship is different and will go at it’s own pace. (Easier said than done, I know). You never know what happens behind closed doors – i.e. your friend could be way overextended on his credit, he could be with someone he doesn’t really love, etc etc. Just remember that you are happy with this man and all that marriage stuff is the icing on a wonderful, moist, cake of your choosing. 🙂
Post # 14
I hate observing people’s relationships through FB too, I totally get it. I know rationally that I can’t see the dynamics of a person’s relationship on a social networking site but it’s still annoying when you see someone repeating the same cycle of habits over and over and then all of a sudden it’s like “Oh hey, I’m engaged now!”
I’m going through this with a friend now. And the funniest part is, he won’t even outright tell me he’s engaged because he knows what I would say (“ARE YOU CRAZY?!”)
Post # 15
@GwenvonD: All I know is that time and time again people misread other peopls finances. Usually the people who appear to have lots of money dont, And the people who seem to not have much money actually do/
Post # 16
He probably had disability payment from his company or the government. It’s like 75% of your salary still or something.
Just try to be positive. You don’t know how real or genuine any one’s relationship is but your own.