Post # 1
So, it wasn’t until the other night when I was explaining to my SO’s friend’s GF why our guys didn’t want to get married yet that I actually figured it out. As in, just after the words fell out of my mouth, I had an “aha” moment. So here it is, ladies:
We, the GFs, want to get married as soon as we have decided he is “the one”.
They, the BFs, don’t want to actually get married until they are READY TO HAVE CHILDREN.
At least it applies in my group, because after I said it, both of the guys began nodding and agreeing that that was the case. I find that incredibly frustrating, because I had been planning on getting married, and then waiting 3 or 4 years to try to conceive.
However! This also appears to be good news in a way, because earlier today, SO and I had a discussion about children’s names (mainly talking about alternative names such as “Serenity”, lol. After I expressed that it might be better as a middle name, he actually agreed and we tossed around a few more ideas, including that if we DID use Serenity as a first name, we would just call her Sera).
So hopefully that means he is almost ready to pop the question! Good luck digging for info about kids, ladies!
Post # 4
Haha.. Well in my case my SO recently said he wants kids in about a year( knowing that we both want to be married first).. I said a year!?! Well I’ll need a ring on my finger first so I don’t know about a year (said it lightheartedly , we were at a hockey game after all.. ) and he said don’t worry you will.. So in my case he’s a little (lot) off
Post # 5
Dang. SO and I just agreed last night we don’t want any (more) kids. We already have my son (previous relationship) and feel he’s quite enough for us. Oh well!
Post # 6
If this is the case, then I’ll probably be waiting ANOTHER ten years!
Post # 7
Hm, I disagree. I know a lot of couples who got married well before they were ready for children. My parents for example waited 6 years after their wedding to have their 1st. And some of my married friends don’t want kids at all.
I’d also be cautious about reading too much into your BF talking about baby names meaning that he’s ready for kids soon.
Post # 8
This definitely applies to my hunny. He’s told me for years that we were going to get married, so I’m wondering what’s the hold up? But then I had this “a ha” moment, and it happened some time around when he tried to tell me if I got pregnant unplanned, that we would be getting married. Boys are so weird… Being the one isn’t enough for them I guess…
Post # 9
Nope, we’re getting married and waiting at least 2-3 years before TTC. Marriage was his idea!