Post # 1
Well, after a month or so of lurking here, posting and admiring (IE drooling) over everyone’s rings while waiting for my guy to save for my own sparkly friend…I decided to stop waiting. See, we’re planning on eloping but haven’t set a date. We’re planning on doing it in the next few months, so there won’t really be an ‘engagement’ period. Originally I said I didn’t *need* an engagement ring, since we’d never really be ‘engaged’, as beautiful as I think they are, plus we wouldn’t be able to find one I liked in our limited budge in such a small period of time. Then we agreed on a Asha, with the intenetion of ‘upgrading’ the stone to a diamond in the future, and after picking a ring we started waiting and saving. Last week it hit me, we were waiting to save up for the engagement ring, and then we would be saving up to buy the wedding bands….when at the end of the day the ONLY thing either of us cared about was getting married in the first place! It seemed like I’d lost focus on the important part, and was focusing on the ring itself when that is the smallest part of marriage (in my mind, I’m not coming down on you lucky ladies and your beautiful engagement rings and stories at all!). So I told my guy a few days ago, let’s forget the ring (for now, I’d still like one perhaps next year) and focus on the getting married part. This gives us more time to shop around, save money and best of all it means we can just get married whenever we decide is a good day :0) Will I miss having the opportunity to show off my new bling? Absolutely, but when it comes down to it…I’d rather show off my new husband!!
Post # 3
@KateRBels: Good for you. You have a great attitude! Best wishes to you and your soon to be husband!
Post # 4
YEPPP YOU’RE TOTALLY RIGHT…I’ve seen some pretty awesome rings on some miserable girls…which goes to show you, it’s not representative of the marriage ALL the time…just because you won’t have one doesnt mean a thing!!!
I am happy for you that you’ve come to such a decision..it shows wisdom and maturity and respect for your man (that you want to show him off and value him sooo much!)…Good luck with everything:)
And remember—you can always get an inexpensive diamondless band for like $80bucks to ward off any guys that might try to hit on you thinking that you’re single or something. I have a link if you want it to inexpensive, simple bands.
Post # 5
you are so right, its definitely not about the ring nor is jewelry a reason to put off marriage when you’re ready.
a consideration would be, playing devils advocate here, is that financial hardships can put a huge strain on any marriage but especially a new one. if there is difficulty affording the e-ring/wedding bands it might be a good idea to make sure finances won’t be a stumbling block in the relationship before you get married.
Post # 6
Makes a lot of sense. I so admire that! I hope you guys still get bands, and I’m sure you’ll get a wonderful ring in the future, should you want one!
Post # 7
Kudos to you! Let us know how everything turns out! 🙂
Post # 8
Thanks for the support Bees!! Yes, we’ll still do wedding rings plus this gives me plenty of time to shop around and experiment with some (cheap) CZ’s and decide what I really like LOL.
Sixta, thank you for your words of widowm, you’re absolutely right finances can be a HUGE marital stress. Ours are all but combined at this point, we’re not struggling as much as we would like to save for OTHER things and a piece of jewelry (no matter how amazing and sentimental they are) doesn’t rank higher than a new washer and dryer or car…I don’t think I could justify spending thousands of dollars on a ring when we’re still living in an apartment either.
I’ll be posting as we start to make plans…like nail down a date