Post # 1
After a year of TTC after a miscarriage, and 2 failed IUIs, my Darling Husband and I are starting an in vitro cycle next month. Some background on us: I have subclinical hypothyroidism (on synthroid, was not diagnosed before my miscarriage) and a potentially blocked left tube (at utero-tubal junction). Otherwise my AMH and FSH are great. Darling Husband has low very morphology and motility, but great count. I am 29 and he is 31.
I would appreciate any personal stories on IVF (success, side effects, etc). I’m also struggling right now with embryo transfer. My RE said she would transfer 1 or 2- 5 day blastocysts depending on our preference. Two obviously increases the success rate, but also can have the risk of twins (or, very rarely, triplets). I would be ok with twins (I think- we don’t have any kids for reference), but I don’t think we could do triplets. I’m a little concerned with a twin pregnancy, although she didn’t seem very concerned at all. I am healthy, have a good BMI, no other medical issues, no drug/alcohol issues. But I do have a stressful job and am on my feet a lot. And my mom had pre-eclampsia when pregnant with me (but she also smoked bc no one told her not to in the 80s I guess).
I’m leaning toward 2 transferred to increase the chance we even get one baby, but I’m also really nervous about potential complications. Any words of advice, or any personal stories would be so helpful. Of course, this is all assuming that things work out in our favor and we will have enough good quality embryos to have this “problem”. FYI- we are also doing ICSI and will freeze any left over embryos if able.
Or, if you have twins, any comments on the pregnancy/raising two would be great! Thanks!!!
Post # 2
mandyjo12: Financially and emotionally can you undergo multiple IVFs? I ask this because if you only transfer one embryo, you will have a lower chance of pregnancy, but also lower chance of multiples. My sister in law underwent two IVFs. First one transferred two embryos, BFN. Secone one transferred three embryos and she gave birth to two beautiful fraternal girls. It’s such a difficult decision but how does your husband feel about it?
Whatever you decide for you and your husband, best of luck to you!!! IVF is tiring both mentally and physcially and I commend you for all the needles and pills you’re taking. Good luck!!! Sending you warm wishes and positive thoughts.
Post # 3
I’ve undergone several IVFs. I transfered 1 every time, except the last where we transfered 2. All were BFNs.
I do remember stressing about whether or not to do 2. I’d say if you absolutely cannot accept the risk of triplets (which is so teeny) then only do 1 at a time. But if you can accept the teeny chance of triplets, and would be ok with twins, then I’d go 2 at a time.
Also keep in mind cost for FETs, emotional availability to continue down the road of treatments. If you can keep up with FETs then you could do 1 and add more if they aren’t working out.
Post # 4
mandyjo12: If you are doing more than one (check into doing a Shared Risk program. At Shady Grove, for one price you get 6 fresh attempts (and unlimited FET) and if you aren’t sucesssful with a live birth, you get all your money back), then the first one only do 1. You are young with good numbers. Looks like you have more a physcal than an egg quality issue.
Look into the risks of twin pregnancy and birth. Also, are you comfortable with doing a selective reduction if you end up with triplets? I have a friend (male) who still cries about having to selectively reduce from 3 to 2 (and his girls are now 6-7).
Post # 5
KoiKove: PS–I’ve been TTC for 3.5 years, 5 IUI’s, 1 natural that ended in MC, 2 IVF’s. But I’m 44 now and my numbers suck! So now we are moving on to Egg Donor.
Good Luck and Baby Dust!
Post # 6
We are starting our first IVF cycle now, no kids either and have decided we will transfer 2. We do want more children and are ok with the idea of twins, but the way we decided was to look at the “worse case” pr “riskiest” of the outcomes. Say we transfer 1, and it didnt work (that would be worst case senario for 1) I think we would always wonder if maybe we transfered 2, that maybe it would have worked. But if we transfer 2, and we got twins (the risky case), we would be ok with that. And in the worse case for transfering 2), if it didnt work, we at least know we did as much as we could to have our best chances.
Post # 7
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We decided to go a different route than IVF. But, IVF was one of the options laid out for us and we discussed it until we were blue in the face. My position in discussions with Mr. LK was that we can only afford IVF now and I want to raise siblings this time. DS is 16 and will be off to college. I don’t want to raise an only child again. So I would prefer to have twins. Once we start paying a nanny for childcare, there’s just no way we can save up enough to do another round of IVF in a few years for another child. We would have to wait until I’m hitting 40 before the money would be there again. I don’t want to do that. We have this one period in time time where we have the money, so let’s go big. Mr. LK, on the otherhand, was terrified of being completely overwhelmed by twins. We decided that, if we started down the OVF path, we would spend lots of time with our friends who just had twin girls at the beginning of the summer to see it first hand. I’m fairly certain he would have ultimately decided to go for a 2 blastocyst transfer, if we were lucky enough to get that many.
Post # 8
Thank you all so much for the replies! It helps to get other opinions and different points of view. It feels so awkward to have to decide these things- people with perfect fertility never have to think of a thing! It’s scary to feel as if you have so much power in your future, yet you’re still completely power-less in your infertility. My Darling Husband is all for transferring 2 embryos. We have the finances to do multiple rounds of IVF if needed (although really not ideal), but emotionally I know a failure is going to be hard. Especially if I only transferred one and got a BFN- I’d always think what if I did two? <br /><br />@koiklove: good luck with the egg donor! My sister is doing IVF with a donor due to premature ovarian failure too. I hope it goes well-good luck!! You are in my thoughts.