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My FH and I decided to have a joint Bach/Bachlorette party, hence the Jack & Jill.  And my FH thinks this whole celebration is about pleasing and entertaining everyone else, including the jack & jill portion. I say we pick a place for din, send invites out, but specify dinner on your own and then a list of places we are going to 'visit' that evening.  Simple.  My FH is trying to arrange HIM driving everyone, what food, a date that accomodates everyone else, etc. 

 I can handle my FH, but am interested in add'l ideas of Jack & Jill parties that didn't break the bank that I can present to him.  I've already told my MOH that we were doing this portion and I'd feel too bad to put it back on the MOH and BM.  I really want to kick off our wedding month with this celebration, and I'd like to get him not to think it's a hassle.  ideas?  Thanks

My FH and I are low key and didn't want anything.  The BMs insisted on something so we agreed to the joint thing.  Finally settled on a "stock the bar party".  Simple cookout and pool party at one BM's house (her husband is also in the BP).  No gifts accepted unless it is alcohol.  We've both been living on our own for awhile and are pampered chef addicts so need for traditional gifts.  Other ideas were a "garden party" where everyone came over to help landscape the baren yard at our new house.  And the favorite "naughty" party hosted by one of the tupperware type party hostesses.

Thanks for the ideas, we are leaning to the low-key as well, maybe no co-ed at all which is fine.  Great ideas to have it all in one, but I don't want to leave mine to the rehersal din, there's too much to do that eve as I am DIY on almost everything and have too much to set up, decorate (including doing my own cake) and my out of state family (well, my entire family is from out of state) will just begin to arrive that same day.  So, I'm thinking the bbq a week prior is the jackpot.  And we are very 'accomodating' during this whole event that started as a 10 guest wedding, HA.  My FI is very sweet but forgets that it's OUR wedding, so he did agree on the 'not calling around' portion, thanks for the help.  I'm sure we'll find a happy medium, we always do...