Post # 1
My FH and I decided to have a joint Bach/Bachlorette party, hence the Jack & Jill. And my FH thinks this whole celebration is about pleasing and entertaining everyone else, including the jack & jill portion. I say we pick a place for din, send invites out, but specify dinner on your own and then a list of places we are going to ‘visit’ that evening. Simple. My FH is trying to arrange HIM driving everyone, what food, a date that accomodates everyone else, etc.
I can handle my FH, but am interested in add’l ideas of Jack & Jill parties that didn’t break the bank that I can present to him. I’ve already told my MOH that we were doing this portion and I’d feel too bad to put it back on the MOH and BM. I really want to kick off our wedding month with this celebration, and I’d like to get him not to think it’s a hassle. ideas? Thanks
Post # 3
My FH and I are low key and didn’t want anything. The BMs insisted on something so we agreed to the joint thing. Finally settled on a "stock the bar party". Simple cookout and pool party at one BM’s house (her husband is also in the BP). No gifts accepted unless it is alcohol. We’ve both been living on our own for awhile and are pampered chef addicts so need for traditional gifts. Other ideas were a "garden party" where everyone came over to help landscape the baren yard at our new house. And the favorite "naughty" party hosted by one of the tupperware type party hostesses.
Post # 4
We’re doing something similar, low key BBQ with hired tents and catering and such at his parents house. You can find lots of BBQ cateres that will come or go anywhere at really reat prices with awesome food!
Our big party is going to be the rehersal dinner, bach and bachlorette party all in one to save on everything – and because it would be more fun for us. We are so past the club hopping days of our youth.
I learned wearly on not to accomodate anyone but me & Mr S when picking dates, well not to "not accomodate them" but to not call around checking anyones schedule. You’ll never find a date that everyone can make it to or pick food everyone will eat. It’s sweet you FI wants to do for everyone but I think he might burn out from it soon…. good luck to him and a high five for thinking of others – what a sweetie.
Post # 5
Thanks for the ideas, we are leaning to the low-key as well, maybe no co-ed at all which is fine. Great ideas to have it all in one, but I don’t want to leave mine to the rehersal din, there’s too much to do that eve as I am DIY on almost everything and have too much to set up, decorate (including doing my own cake) and my out of state family (well, my entire family is from out of state) will just begin to arrive that same day. So, I’m thinking the bbq a week prior is the jackpot. And we are very ‘accomodating’ during this whole event that started as a 10 guest wedding, HA. My FI is very sweet but forgets that it’s OUR wedding, so he did agree on the ‘not calling around’ portion, thanks for the help. I’m sure we’ll find a happy medium, we always do…
Post # 6
Glad to hear that others are having joint parties as well. Since we both tango dance, we’re spreading the word that we’ll be celebrating at a regular event and are asking people to come out and have some fun (we asked the hosts first, of course). We figure that way, people won’t bring gifts, but will be able to come, have fun and spend time with us, which is what we really want anyway.