Post # 1
Am I expected to wear all of the jade and gold jewelry given to me for the wedding? I am not changing for the reception. The jewelry will look gaudy with my white and silver dress. It seems so old fashioned. Will my relatives be offended?
I’m Chinese American and my fiance is Caucasian (Russian, Ukranian, and German?). Our wedding is themed towards the ocean and will not incorporate many Chinese traditions. I’m going to have the red silk sign in cloth and favors in take-out boxes. I would say 10-20% of the guests are from my side of the family. Another 10-20% from his side of the family. And the rest are friends (hodge-podge of cultures and races).
Post # 3
No, you are not expected or should you wear all the jade and gold jewelry you receive. I assume you will doing a tea ceremony? Typically, you wear as they present it to you at the tea ceremony portion.
After the tea ceremony is over, and before the reception, take it all off! Wear only what you want – I would caution keeping it in a safe box or somewhere secure. And don’t forget to lock all your doors! Asian tea ceremony weddings are notorious to be full of cash and bling – and its a thieves heaven. [After my sister’s wedidng reception, her in-laws returned to a broken in home in search of her gifts].
If you are not doing a tea ceremony, then, make sure someone safe guards all the gifts and still, no, you do not need to wear them.
Post # 4
I didn’t wear all the jade/gold that was presented to me/us. I did switch out my necklace though as my Mother-In-Law & Father-In-Law got me a gorgeous diamond necklace. Basically we just showed the guests what we received, kind of show and tell-like, and then placed everything in the gift basket (which was personally being held by one of my brothers).
Post # 5
Are you doing the tea ceremony during the reception though? I know some brides do that. If you’re doing it during the reception, I would ask your mom or other elder to see their opinion. You wouldn’t want to offend someone by putting it all on and then taking it all off.
Post # 6
If your parents and your parents in law give you gold bracelets, wear those all day.
All the other jewelry you get from your other relatives, you can take them off after the tea ceremony.