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I'm down for this. I was thinking of making it part of my new year's resolution. Checking in will also help me with this. Yay! I'm excited for this :)

Weekly Check-In:

Having been a part of the last thread, I'm going to keep up my tradition of weekly check-in's. Thank you for starting this new thread for 2012!

I'm happy to report I survived the Holidays even though I was a little disappointed going into them knowing I shouldn't expect a proposal. After all the worrying/disappointment, I actually had a great Holiday season with my SO. There were no awkward questions from SO's family, and we gave eachother the most thoughtful, perfect gifts. We had great quality time together, and I think we are both really looking forward to a fresh year of 2012.

That being said, I'm happy to report, no talk of engagement/weddings have come up at all in the last few weeks, and I've noticed the longer I go without dwelling on it, the easier it is! I think the Holiday season having passed is also easier because the stress is now gone of seeing others do what we all think about.

I also am happy to say we've been making use of our new gym memberships alot, and it's a great way for me to get some de-stress time on my own and meet new people. Working out has really made me much happier at the end of the day. I'm also getting more involved in work and sticking to my monthly Book Club reads.

I've made it a point to make some good resolutions for myself and my goal this year is to focus on me and feel healthy! Here's to a new year and good thoughts for all the lovely bees!

I'm trying hard! I failed a couple days ago, but I'm determined to not mention it again!

bf joked with me the other day when we were cleaning up his room "what if I already have the ring? you'd never find it!"

I'm pretty sure he doesn't have it though, but what a jerk for teasing me! lol...

and I'm also making some additional resolutions...

lose weight (20 lbs would be nice!)

exercise more

spend more time with friends

enjoy our relationship in the here and now, instead of getting stressed over engagement!

let's all make 2012 the best year yet!

So here's my weekly check in...

I think it's been a pretty good week as far as not bringing up marriage.  Engagement has come up, but IIII didn't bring it up. He did. Twice.  Well he only mentioned ring stuff. One of those times, we were drinking at a bar, and he started talking about how he has started liking the look of cushion cut diamonds, and then he started showing me all these rings on his phone and the different types he had "researched." Not gonna lie, I got a little excited with him talking about it so openly. I started to think I might go too far talking about it since I was drinking, so I jokingly said "ugh you are teasing me! stop!" He smiled and then we changed the subject. Maybe I shouldn't have done that and taken the opportunity to see what he has to say especially since he was drinking too. ;)  It's just that I have in the back of my crazy mind the thought that what if he has something picked out already and if I say too much about specifics of what I want in a ring, he might think he has to change it. Well, at least he already knows the basics of what I like. *sigh*

As far as doing things for myself, um, I haven't done as good this week because I've been spending a lot of time with my boyfriend (but we hang out with our group of friends together too).  However, for the past month, I have had a girls night at least once a week, so I think a week break from that was okay. Next weekend I'm going out of town for a bachelorette party. yay! Also, I want to get started on getting back into the gym but I haven't started yet. Maybe this coming week. What else can I do for myself besides hanging out with my friends and working out? Me and SO spend a lot of time together. I love it with all my heart but having something for myself would be good too :)

Thanks bridewannabe! Yeah I was excited about it. He probably noticed me being all smiley, so I had to calm myself down. haha! 

I'm feeling FRUSTRATED lately. we've got some sort of special events coming up, plus valentine's day (ugh) but I still don't think it will happen any time soon. 

and I had a meltdown over the weekend. like crying-mess melt down. ugh.  but we're just stuck in the same exact place. and I don't think I can handle hearing "it will happen soon" comments anymore.

obviously his definition of 'soon' differs from mine.

grrrrrrr... I hate January!

i know this is hard, i'd need daily check ins so I don't forget to not bring it up :) good luck to you all!

Weekly Check In:

This week, I did an okay job at not stressing myself out over marriage, but I did have a small blip last weekend that I wrote a post about.

http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/shoulda-woulda-couldasorry-its-a-little-long

I'm happy that even though I brought something up about it last weekend, it was a good quick conversation, and I didn't dwell on his answers (or non-answers :)) and I went about my day. Part of my concerns was an upcoming vacation, and instead of dwellinlg on it not being wedding-related, I am taking it by the horns and have had fun planning it out with him. I have a hard time dropping things when I should and focusing on the negative, so I'm glad that this scenario has been an improvement for me.

I've done a great job at keeping up with working out this week, and I even met 2 friends at the gym that are excited to try some classes out with me, so more girl time and me time!

My SO started his new semester of classes this week in the evenings, so I'll have more time to myself this Spring, and I'm excited to get into better shape on my own at the gym.

After our big argument last weekend, I've been working on the backup plan (not really that I had planned it that way, but that's what I'm doing and it happens to have a name!).  I splurged on some things from LUSH (and bought new clothes for work) and took a luxurious bath last night.  I made a bunch of dr's appointments I've been putting off (dentist and dermatologist).  Plan to check out a new yoga studio tomorrow.  I haven't heard from him since Tuesday; I kind of suspect he will want to talk to me today but I wasn't able to get my class lecture downloaded last night so I'll have to watch it today and put off talking with him (we're LDR).

I think about him and the relationship a lot.  I wonder if this is really for me; I've always wanted to be married and have a "partner in crime", but always have had a difficult time with relationships in general; this relationship, until the argument last weekend, I thought was really great and he was the one for me.  I'm frustrated that it feels he's "flip-flopped" on getting married and won't give me a time frame.  I've decided on a date when I'm going to call it quits if he doesn't propose; by that time I would have waited for two years (and we would have been together for three) and I think that's more than enough time to him to "think about it" and save for a ring.

On a happier note, I've decided to start working on a new red dress for V-day (sewing is one of my hobbies).  I think if I start this weekend I'll be able to get it done in time. 

@jpalm13: good luck with the eye surgery!  What kind of dance do you do?  I take an Argentine Tango class once a week.  :)  I used to go with my bf, but since I moved he quit going.  :(