January or Spring? And is my FFIL trying to push me around…

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@ImperialRed:  You probably won’t save anything by having your wedding in the off-season, unless you’re getting married in the #1 wedding location in Albany.

I got married in the Finger Lakes Region (so like 2 hours from you), and with the exception of like 3 venues, prices stayed the same year-round.

That being said, if you want to have a winter wedding, have a winter wedding! People have travelled way farther in way worse weather to attend a wedding.

Post # 4
61 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

As a January bride, I can say that I have not gotten any discounts due to getting married in the off-season.  But I will also say that no one has expressed that they wouldn’t be coming due to the time of year! We made sure to send our STDs early so that everyone could plan their vacation leave accordingly, and it seems to have worked.

But, I think a sentimental date is something important. I love the idea of celebrating 10 years together with a wedding!  You should go with the date that you and your fiance want most.  Ultimately, people will come, no matter when it is.

Post # 5
849 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@ImperialRed:  Some venues are cheaper in off season around here, though I am …you know…fecking far away from you. I know if you do Friday or Sunday you can save, and if you do a luncheon instead of an evening meal/party. So maybe these are things to consider? I think winter weddings where it snows are gorgeous!

Post # 6
164 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2014


I agree with @StuffWithScout: .  I didn’t seen any venues discounting because my wedding was in January.  There may be florist or cake or caterer discounts, but I don’t know about those because I’m using friends as vendors.

My fiance and I aren’t that sentimental about dates.  We were more concerned with the length of the engagment.  I would have a chat with your fiance and express all your feelings/concerns.  But it should be you two, and only you two, who ultimately decide, especially if the others aren’t paying for the wedding.  People who love you will come to see you get married, no matter the time of year.

Post # 7
301 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I don’t know if wedding costs will be lower, but costs for your guests (airfare, hotel) may be lower, and I bet that vendors will have greater availability.  Considering that your out of town guests will be able to take a shuttle from the airport, any of them who cite the weather as a reason for not attending are probably not people on whom you would want to spend your wedding fund.

I have a relative who got married in Ohio during the winter.  I don’t know what the accept/decline rate was, but a lot of guests attended and everyone had a great time.

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