Post # 1
So I am currently struggling to find the right presents for my guests here in Japan. I have thought about purchasing inexpensive gifts from the States and giving them away to my guests but that is becoming a difficult option seeing as how many guests are looking for quality items for their attendance.
I started searching for the traditional options that I could use since their seems to be now way around this rule. I am talking
quality whole cakes
excellent teas (not a bag, a gift wrapped container)
In my search I came across this
The latest trend “Catalog presents” The guest will select what they like from this book to receive.
You got your standard meat and fish…
Neckties and too expensive ball point pens… Pocket watches…
Even Saran Wrap, Ziploc containers, and dust busters…
Needless to say I am dying to hand them bubble blowers for $.50 a piece and be done
I don’t want to be cheap all the way through but to be honest I don’t think some of our guests will give the standard Japanese sum as a present to the bride and groom. I honestly feel we will be cheated from the gifts in the scheme of things. However, you can’t give those you know will provide great presents great gifts and those who may come and eat for free small and well deserved presents.
This has my fiance constantly saying, “Why are we having a ceremony?” He has come to the financial block here and I think we both are wondering how we will survive all the plans.
* Just wanted a moment to share my cultural dilema again.*
Post # 3
I went to the wedding of a Japanese woman and an American guy a few years ago. They gave everyone a nice mug from a department store. They were much cheaper than the traditional Japanese gift, but they were definitely a bit more expensive than the traditional American bag of cookies or what-have-you. Perhaps that’s an option?
Post # 4
Humm, still stuggling with that idea. I have to be good to our boss especially. I’m not sur whats best to do.
Post # 5
@adw2c: It’s possible that my friends gave nicer stuff to the Japanese guests. They didn’t have a whole lot of Western guests present (none of the groom’s family could afford to come… it was kind of sad), so maybe they just gave us the smaller mugs because they knew we wouldn’t give them ï¿¥2man. I only gave them ï¿¥5000 because I knew that’s what they expected of me (and I can’t afford to be all Japanese at a wedding!). Thus, I guess it’s possible that the mug was actually half the value of the money I gave them, and so it was a more traditional Japanese gift…
I don’t know what else to tell you, but good luck! I’ve been really interested reading your past few posts, so if you have any other questions or just want to bounce ideas off someone, feel free to send me a PM!
Post # 7
I know with the recent events, this is no longer an issue, but…
My Japanese Uncle got married while we were living there in the 80’s. Due to our status as family memember, he gave us an expensive gift–a box of soup. That’s right, it was $100+ box of 8 different types of Campbell soup. lol
Post # 8
Thats so nice!! Aww. Yeah random and expensive presents are popular here.