petty i know!!!!! but does anyone else ever get a bit down when all the girls working around you gets flowers sent to work and you dont?… only thing that really bothered me, was that in front of everyone someone had to say “oh he didnt get you flowers like everyone else?”… im sure he has something planned tonight when he gets off work and he’s bought me flowers plenty times before but i dont know, just kinda bummed me out….. childish i know, just wanted to vent for a sec
Eh, my DH is not the type to think or spend the money to send me flowers at work. Nor does even have the address for work. I find it not a big deal. Other than just have to roll my eyes at the women who flaunt the fact omg their whatever sent them flowers…
I’ve been on both sides of this issue.
My Ex-H used to often send me Flowers to the office for Valentines Day… it was his BIG SHOW that he did at least once a year.
It was certainly nice… if not a tad embarrassing at times.
BUT in reality, I had a very sh!tty marriage with the man… he was an abusive alcoholic. Period.
So what goes on in public, and what goes on behind closed doors can be two very different things !!
This time round,
I am married to a very sweet sensitive, loving & caring person in Mr TTR.
And guess what… he hates holidays like Valentine’s Day… he calls them “Hallmark Holidays” because they are made-up occasions.
So unless he is in some wacky mood… there will be NO Card, NO Flowers, NO Dinner Out for me…. today.
But ya know it is ok… because in the end he loves me very very much, and shows that to me each and every day (as he says he doesn’t need a special occasion to do that)
I am a very well treated, well-gifted (surprise flowers, surprise cards, surprise jewellery etc) and WELL LOVED gal.
So no complaints here !!
Something to think about… just because there are flowers, and a BIG SHOW on a particular day when lots of people are paying attention doesn’t mean there is LOVE in paradise.
It is what a man does when no one is looking that matters more.
Hope this helps,
I dunno, I don’t need to show off how in love we are by him wasting money on having flowers delivered to me where everybody can see. Honestly, I don’t even like him buying flowers this particular day because prices are jacked up. I drive by a florist every morning that sells a dozen roses for $9.99, and this morning, they’d just hand scribbled on a piece of paper a “2″ in front of it. Makes me roll my eyes. i’d rather he pick them up at random when I need a lift.
Im sort of weird about this kind of stuff. On the one hand I think to myself “well why don’t I get flowers damn it!” but the reality of it is, I don’t personally like stuff like that. So I know it doesn’t happen because SO knows what counts with me and what is going to just make me squirmy and uncomfortable. It’s one of those things that sounds good in theory and looks good for other people but if it were to happen to me I would react oddly to it. Im a strange bird. But in some weird way, yes I kind of wish things like that were done for me and that I was good at accepting it without being weird.
One of the admin in my office said that if you dont get flowers or something comparable delivered to work then he doesn’t love you…..I told her that he loves me enough to know I would kill him if he did. I’m not knocking them or anything, but we share finances and I would rather that money towards something else!
I would rather come home to flowers than know my SO spent $15 or more on shipping!! I used to get a bit jealous when I was single but definitely not when I’m in a relationship =)
@cdenise89: It’s not THAT great to get flowers at work. I mean I wouldn’t complain, but it’s such a cliche gesture. It’s nicer when the flowers come to the office on a day that isn’t Feb. 14.
It was bitchy of that girl to say anything. I would have a comeback ready in case someone else comments. Like “oh, my man is a lot more original than that!”.
I got flip flops and a hoody that I picked out myself LOL. I wasn’t expecting anything, but I wanted these items and he said I should buy them and he’ll take care of it. I thought that was a sweet gesture!
@SapphireSun: I’m with you. I would definitely rather recieve flowers on some random day when I’m feeling blue than on a day that isnt really specialy because everyone feels like they “have to” send flowers.
thanks guys, i know its so childish of me to feel that way, but i just had to vent a bit… i feel better now… and you guys are right, i guess i’d rather him use that money to pay our credit card off instead of wasting it on flowers or chocolate or something
I don’t think ot really matters what other couples do, if getting flowers at work is important to you then you need to talk to your SO about how you feel and what you expect.
Honestly, I think it’s kind of rude and ostentatious to send flowers to someone at work. It’s like the whole purpose is to show off for other people. I’d much rather come home to find flowers than have them delivered to my work. It would be more special, romantic, and meaningful because it’s shared between the two of us.
@cdenise89: I got flowers at work only once in the 5 years I’ve been dating Fi. It was really nice when it hapened but I haven’t really expected a valentine or anniversary present since.
Meh. FI has done it a few times in the 4 years we’ve been dating. A few times it was embarrassing because the display was so large, so when people came in my office to ask a question – BOOYAH! BAM! LOOK AT MY FLOWERS MY MAN GOT ME! Ughhh. -_- lol.
Don’t worry about it. V-Day kind of forces people to be overly romantic. I told FI to hold off on the flowers because I’d rather have more money for the wedding. I’m sure your FI is the same way.
I’m personally a fan of the saying, “If you need to be reminded once a year to do something nice for your SO, then you’re doing something wrong.”
FI doesn’t get me flowers on Valentine’s Day, but he does make me coffee in the morning. He does cook me dinner/breakfast/packs me lunch. He does call me “Beautiful” and lets me watch my girly shows/movies with (almost) no complaint