- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
Hello! I used this site extensively for my planning, but I think this is my first post. I was hoping someone could shed some light on my situation as I really am at my wit’s end!
I met my husband at my friend’s wedding (she is married to my husband’s brother). For so long they were trying to get us together and when we eventually did get together we were blissfully happy, we still are. The problem is that my husband and his brother are American, and me and my friend are English. My friend has been in the US the last couple of years, and I emigrated this year. Suddenly, as soon as we got together, my friend totally changed.
At first she was very open about it. Her and her husband were having a tough time and it was always ‘oh we’re thinking that we need to be more like you two’. I’ve known her for 10 years and she has always copied me, much to my annoyance. It would be everything from haircuts to career choices. This is so bizarre to me, as she has been spoilt rotten her entire life, and I’ve had quite a difficult background. What has she got to be jealous of?! Now, almost two years on, she is totally cold towards me and really competitive. Of course, she is now my SIL and I can’t just avoid her.
She didn’t help one scrap with the wedding, despite being the Maid/Matron of Honor, and would constantly compare my choices with her own wedding. She was so jealous with everything: our scenery, our little handmade details, even the fact that our inlaws got on well with my parents… literally everything! She upset me on my actual wedding day by suddenly befriending one of my closest friends and taking her away on ‘secret chats’ and the like. It’s so petty and I don’t want all this part of my life.
Now at any family occasion she is incredibly competitive with my in-laws’ attention, she wanders round the whole time with a scowl in my direction, apart from when you speak to her and she’s full of fake sugary sweetness. She has always been very keen on being seen to be the ‘hottest English girl’ but now she appears to be competing with intelligence, too. Suddenly she is an expert in my areas of expertise despite that fact that she has no experience of it. Her and her husband are now chasing corporate glory and everything is about money and investments and stocks. My husband and I have no interest in this life, but unfortunately it’s like they are trying to lord it over us as though we should care.
I’m so sorry about the length of this post! I didn’t intend it to be so long! Has anyone else been in this situation?