- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
Okay, so in the JEALOUSY DEPT. this bride has not really had issues with that… UNTIL recently!!!
Let me start off with Fiance & I were best friends for 5 years, during that time I was dating other guys and completely avoiding any relationship. I’m happy I had that time to “just be Me” but at the same time, I feel like IF i would have dated him I would have saved a lot of drama!
We moved in together & I found some cards/pictures of his ex from years ago. I used to be friends with this girl, only to find out she was sleeping with my highschool boyfriend. I was so upset from finding these photos and cards, I was shaking and psycho for a while hour. It completely ruined that day! But I prayed about it and let it go. We had a big talk and honestly, he had NO idea it was there. I trust him but I’m a girl so its only normal that I feel this way. (She’s married but yet was still calling him during her engagement..complete idiot!)
Then, another night I’m at his parents who live 10 minutes away and his Mom’s like got can you go into FI’s sisters old bedrm (she lives out of state). There, I find pics of another ex that he dated before me. I completely forgot she was best friends with her. This is the sister he is closer with and wanted me to choose as a bridesmaid.
So she comes to visit, she tells me she’s has nothing in common with this girl, that they aren’t even friends anymore. And she’s so happy that we are together, didn’t like them together, being supportive, etc.
So then I logon FB & see all of these photos PLASTERED all over with her ex-best friend. WTTTTTTTF! I know it was 2 years ago and I know my Fiance would never do anything but WHY MUST ALL OF THIS KEEP HAUNTING ME!!!!! I go from CALM to LIVID in seconds, it’s ridiculous!!
I just let it go and I spoke to his other sister (who I am closer with, but he is not) about it… maybe I’m being crazy, etc bc I did not want to ask her to be a bridesmaid bc of the whole thing. I still haven’t asked. I just don’t feel comfortable. She tells me that they were friends since Kinder and that she’s just being nice. She says that nobody likes her and they all love me.. not to worry. I just feel like she’s a damn cockaroach that I’m trying to exterminate and she keeps appearing!
I get so frustrated!
Somewhere in between all this, I lost a best friend.. SO now when I need someone to listen.. I feel like an emotional wreck! 🙁 No joke. At least, with that issue I am coming to terms that our friendship is over and that she has not been a good friend for me. I am not holding this against her anymore and honestly feel dumb for even bringing it up.
I’m human, not perfect. I make mistakes, too.
So then I meet my FI’s Bridesmaid or Best Man and both my Fiance & Bridesmaid or Best Man get drunk (just lovely!) and start saying jokes. Then, Im like oh a family friend lives closeby.. so I invite him over.. then he comes over and he gets drunk too. He tells the story abt how we both won Prom K & Q when we were in highschool. So then my Fiance says that the ex-gf (the one I used to be friends with) went to his dorm for afterprom. I flipped out and we went outside for a huge talk because my blood was boiling! It was awful. He apologized for not being in the right state of mind, that he was trying to be funny. I know he didn’t love her so I’m not worried about that, it’s just more of a “Why would he say that?” I guess it was one of the first times in our relationship where he actually disappointed me. I talked to my Mom and she goes marriage is about forgiving and discussing things.
I feel like I am hurt and my blood begins to boil whenever I see a picture or whatever! It’s awful. I’m tired of feeling this way. I need to vent 🙁 Maybe I’ll feel better now that I have…
Fiance took me on a date, talked things out, held me while I cried, and listen to me have a major bitch session. I have felt a little better since then but seriously.. I need some advice