Post # 1
My boyfriends and I are about to get engaged, I know this because we went and picked the diamond out and bought it together and we are getting the band I wanted custom made because I couldnt find what I wanted in ant stores.
Because of my excitement of course I have told my closest friends and im not getting the reaction I expected. I have shown them pictures and as soon as I show them a picture and they ask how big the centre diamond is and I tell them its over 2carats they get caddy, saying things like I would never want something that big and gaudy.
Im the first of my friends to be getting engaged, and I know they love me but they are being really mean and acting extremly jealous.
Has anyone else experienced this with their friends?
What would you suggest I should say next time they say something negative about my ring?
Im so happy with my ring and they are totally bringing me down and making me feel guilty that I have this great ring.
Post # 3
Sorry to hear that. Unfortunately these things happen sometimes. In the end, you’re the one wearing that rock, so who cares what they think.
Post # 4
In personal experience no one is going to be as excited about your ring as you, and thats perfectly okay! Perhpas just say next time “i know it may not be your taste but its mine and i am excited” Since your the first one to be getting married they might just -not get it- at this point in their lives they may have other things than getting married on their minds (this happened with me and my friends i am the first to be getting married too) Just keep in mind whats important to you and your FI and let the other stuff roll off your back like water on a duck! Enjoy your sparkles lady!
Post # 5
What kinds of things are they saying?
Post # 6
One of my closest friends had a similar reaction when I first told her I got engaged and showed her my ring. She was jealous because she had been wanting to get married for the longest time and always wanted to be the first to get engaged and all that. When she reacted negatively to my ring (said it was too big and flashy for her taste and proceeded to tell me what kind of ring she wants), I wasn’t happy about it, but I basically told her that it didn’t need to be her taste, it’s mine and I love it. It doesn’t matter what other people think of it, as long as you love it.
Post # 7
That’s when you turn around, post a pic of it on here and we all tell you (honestly) how FAB it is!!! 🙂
Post # 8
Wow, I got that from strangers, but never friends! How rude!
Post # 9
Its normal, you get something they want but know they willprobably never have (i mean over 2 carats) and they feel a little like you are showing off. Its just a way of life.
Post # 10
Just say, “Yeah, not many girls can pull off a beautiful 2 carat”
Post # 11
Every time a friend of mine sees the ring, she always reminds me that a ring is not binding but a marriage is, so she wants me to think really hard about my engagement. She also reminds me that he didn’t have to buy the diamond (it was my mom’s), so he didn’t have to spend a whole lot, thus he might not be serious about the marriage. She is horribly jealous. She hasn’t been much of a good friend since the engagment, yet loved the FI when he was the boyfriend. She knew she would be a BM, but recently I’ve been reconsidering that. I’ve even warned her that he BM role will be lost if the comments continue. FI’s friends have heard some of her comments and spoke to me about her, which is really bad. They told me that she is convinced FI would be with her if I weren’t around.
You hope that your friends are happy for you and I have to think that truely they are. They’re just jealous of your happiness. I guess its something we have to put up with but I too would appreciate the support of my friends without the caddy, jealous comments.
I really think I will be firing my friend as a BM though.
Post # 12
Dont pay attention to anyone else….your ring is perfect for you and that is all that matters.
Post # 13
@Soon.to.be.Mrs.Freeman: wow, seriously? That is one friend not worth having.
Post # 14
They told me that she is convinced FI would be with her if I weren’t around
WTH? This friend just sounds like she’s insanely jealous (and toxic with comments lie that!). Saying catty crap about the size of your diamond just proves it. She’s probably trying to convince herself that a large stone isnt necessary but secretly really wants one. I do agree with one PP, no one will love your ring as much as you but they should all be happy for you, you know?
Post # 15
Try to ignore them. If they are really bothering you that much I would sugest being honest. Tell them that they are upsetting you and that its your ring and you love it, and if they were really your friends they would just be happy for you and keep their nasty little comments to themselves.
Post # 16
@smartandcute2boot: Answer their comments with, “It’s a good thing that I’ll be wearing the ring and not you then!” The only person who has to be happy with your ring is you. Try to let your friends’ comments roll off your back.
@Soon.to.be.Mrs.Freeman: Uh…holy crap! With “friends” like that, who needs enemies?? I’d fire her too!