- 6 years ago
- Wedding: April 2012
My Moh and i have known each other since Sept. 1997 (age 10). we have always done everything together, but i always felt inferior to her when we were younger. she was alway the prettier one, all the guys liked her, even the ones that i liked :(. she was more popular than i. people only knew me as the girl that was friends with “T”.
i was attractive but not like her. it seems as though i always came second to her. But in the past 8 years, our lives seemed to change. she has become a single parent of two children and my confidence has sky rocket (moving away from her for my jr and sr yr of HS helped me get out of her shadow and become my own person). Once i became confident with myself, others began to notice. I stopped comparing myself to her and became the best Me. I became popular with the guys and even when they still seemed to prefer her to me, it didnt get me down. though sometimes those feeling of being inferior comes up.
Now i am 25 and my husband and i have been together for 3.5 yrs before tying the knot. He has been great to me and all my friends seem to acknowlegde that… except for my Maid/Matron of Honor. Every single time something good happens to me and not her, she never wants to mention it or show happiness. NO MATTER WHAT IT IS.Whenever something goes right for her, you never hear the end of it and i always show excitement for her.
I dont want to think that she is jealous of me because i always thought she was so wonderful, but my mom and husband has pointed something out to me…
I dont have children, decent job, in college, first to get and keep a car,apt,boyfriend (now husband) with decent jobs, and im stable.
Once we had an arguement and i told her that we are always talking about her problems and she never listens to my issues, she said “When do you ever have any problems?”
My mom says that all these years of being insecure around her and envious of her popularity, that maybe the whole time she has been envious of me. but it makes me sad that i tend to down play my excitement around her bc things arent going well in her love life and finances bc i know if something good isnt going for her, she will not show her excitement for me. it has been like this our whole lives but i dont have any other friend as close as her to be my Maid/Matron of Honor so it was kind of a given. She surprised me when she should a lil excitement when i first got engaged then eloped. but immediatly after, she hooked up with some bum guy trying to make a serious relationship. she constantly brought up “marraige talks” that they had. he cheats and break it off every weekend and until a week ago she continue to put on a smile like they were great ( mind you that she has been the type of girl that guys throw themselves at and she has never put up with those things before). when their relationship got so bad that she couldnt hide it, then she began to be sour about my wedding plans and she NEVER mentions it unless i do and she hasnt offered to do ANYTHING to date.
All of our lives it has always been about her but now that my life is going a lot better than hers, she cant seem to show her support. CAN I PLEASE HAVE MY TIME TO SHINE??