(Closed) Jealous of FI…

posted 5 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

You should talk to him about how you feel.

Post # 5
556 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Why don’t you go with him? I mean not WITH him, but since he is going to be in a different country why not go and enjoy some turist stuff and relax as a mini vacation while he goes with his buddies?

Post # 7
917 posts
Busy bee

@aussiebride26:  He’s going to need his paasport?! Hmm… My suggestion is if you’re not really into bachelorette parties then organise a day spa or wine tasting in the Hunter Valley (assuming you are in Sydney) for the Saturday night. I’d much prefer to have a night of relaxation than a drunken night of “OMG, wtf did I do?!” That’s just me… 

Post # 8
12250 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@aussiebride26:  I planned my own! My Maid/Matron of Honor is my younger sister, so I set it up and said “You know what? Let’s have an AWESOME girl’s day/night out!”

Post # 10
11172 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

Wow, sounds like they have something pretty amazing planned.

I don’t blame you for being jealous. I am actually pretty jealous (still) of my DH’s bachelor party. They did a weekend in Tahoe and I had a girl’s night out with sleepover instead. Not the same, not at all. Unfortunatley some of my friend’s couldn’t afford a weekend getaway and so we did something local to meet their financial restraints. It is what it is, but a weekend away would have been amazing.


Post # 11
255 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My fiance and I are doing ours together.  But since that is not an option here, definitely plan your own!  I’ve planned EVERYTHING in my wedding.  My bridal shower, I’ve done all my own programs and lots of other stuff.  At least you know things will get done the way you like and don’t have to be disappointed!

Post # 12
733 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@aussiebride26: I’m sorry that you’re disappointed about your own bachelorette situation, but why are you not ok with your fiance taking a trip overseas with his friends? As long as they’re responsible and have the money to do this, I don’t see the issue. I would love to do that!! 

Post # 14
707 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I know what you’re feeling! My fi is having 3 of his friends planning his party. They aren’t doing anything totally crazy but I’m still a little envious that they’re taking care of things. I don’t have a ton of friends so I basically took things into my own hands to plan something for myself. I’m ok with that now. I did have week of crying when I realized that I have to plan my own shower. We’re going to pay for the shower and hope to have about 25 people there. We don’t have any home stuff so were hoping to get some useful things off our registry. You’re not the only one though, we just have to make the best of it! 

Post # 15
514 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@aussiebride26:  Maybe you could have some sort of girls weekend that you could organize instead of a traditional party. You guys could go to the spa or go somewhere for the night. I’m not having one either, but we are going to have a fun lazertag/bowling night with a big group of friends soon.

Post # 16
3461 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@aussiebride26:  I would talk to him about this.  It seems you have legitimate reasons to not want him to go out of the country (e.g. many trips) and that you also need to discuss why he is not ok with your trips but raving about his.  Best to have him clear with his friends what if any his cost contribution is because for an out of town party they may be expecting him to pay for his flight himself. 

I totally get where you are coming from.  In the past year, Darling Husband went to his bachelor party, 2 other parties recently, and has 2 more upcoming likely, all out of state.  I’m bummed all my friends did was a dinner/drinks out, but I didn’t ask for more because I didn’t want to burden them.  I didn’t want Darling Husband not to go and enjoy himself but I did feel left out jealous…  So, as a result, I’ve recently decided to plan a gals weekend for myself!  Not a bachelorette but it’ll be good to hang with friends.

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