Jealous of others

posted 3 years ago in Career
Post # 2
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42453 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

FutureMrsB123:  Have you considered going back to school? I took my nursing education after i left my first husband. Otherwise it would have been a series of low paying, dead end jobs for me, and I had 2 kids to support.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

FutureMrsB123:  What do you mean you’re afraid you wouldn’t stick to it? Make a decision to make your life better. Stick with it because it’s going to create a better life for yourself. 

Your life will get better when you make the decisions and sacrifices necessary to make it better. 

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

FutureMrsB123:  Maybe because I was a single parent, I didn’t have the option of not “sticking to” anything.

Have you ever had career counselling to help you choose a career goal?

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

FutureMrsB123:  it sucks that you are struggling. But you have to keep in mind, the person with the great job and financial stability still has problems. They just aren’t the same ones as you. Our family looks perfect when viewed from the street, but we have dealt with 2 family deaths and very serious addiction issues of my brother in the past year. I too looked at other families and wanted my life to be something that it wasn’t, but I bet almost everyone has something that keeps them up at night

 

cosmetology school sounds like a great idea! It’s not a super long program if I’m not mistaken, and a much more fulfilling job after!  

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I live in a small town as well and know how hard it is. Sometimes the best thing you can do is move a little further away for a while, or commute to a bigger town/city. I’m not into city life so for me I would resist moving, but you HAVE to act if you really want to improve your situation. Good luck!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Not to pry or anything but how old are you?? You sound like me when I was much younger, except I just stuck with a job I wasn’t very happy in cause it was easy.  Have you and your FI sat down together and come up with a path to meet your goals? buying a house doesnt fall into your lap, most people work for a long time and save every penny to be able to afford these perks of life.    I’m 28 and my Fi is 29 we worked very hard for the last 4 years to be able to purchase a house and have new cars. To be honest if it wasn’t for him we would probably be still renting.  There is no race in life to have these goals but you have to come up with some kind of path for you to achieve them or you’ll be spinning your tires for a while. 

 

Like others mentioned, maybe trying a career center or working for a temp agency so you can try out a few jobs to try and find something you like.  If you don’t your going to have a long rough road ahead of you.  I couldn’t imagine having nearly 6 different employers a year. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard

FutureMrsB123:   I have to be honest. I’m concerned by most of your posts the last couple months. You were a bank teller then a waitress and have a vet asst cert, 17 jobs in 4 years, you are only 21, have said you don’t want career goals like others, just want a baby, yet you aren’t even married yet and you are jealous of what others have? People have to set goals and work for them. They don’t just fall in your lap. 

I’m a little older but those all have red flags that tell me that there is an underlying issue(s) that you have not sought counseling for. I would seriously suggest seeing a therapist. I by no means am a Dr., but it seems there is either some form of  abuse when you were younger lowering you self esteem (whether it be physical or mental abuse), depression or you have a disability like ADHD, or something else disabling you ability to stick with something. My son has severe ADHD and bipolar and has this issue, but meds have seriously helped him so much. 

With all that in mind, please don’t consider having a child yet, until you sort out yourself with counseling and have a stable environment, job, married, etc. 

((hugs)) You are still young. Work hard, make realistic goals and you will reap the awards when the time is right. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Education is key in my opinion. I just graduated with a master’s in clinical science and it was a long road but so worth it! Education is something that is yours and no one can take it away. Nothing good comes easy…if you want different do something different.

You are not stupid, don’t ever think that about yourself. I was a single mother working my butt off in school and at times things looked really rough. Then I got my degree and getting handed that diploma changed my life. Shortly after that I enrolled in a master’s program,met a great man and now my life is great.

Hang in there. Believe in yourself.

Post # 14
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Busy bee

you are 21 and jealous of people with homes and babies? At 21 I felt bad for people with homes and babies already haha. 

People who own their own homes ahve done it through hard work and saving. They do this by finding a job and sticking with it.

It sounds like this would be a horrible time for you to have a baby. It sounds to me like you are jealous of people who have their sh*t together, and to be honest most 21 year olds I know don’t so you aren’t alone.

Take some time to figure out what you want to do, figure out the steps that it takes to get there, and start working towards your goal. I know it sounds like a lot, and yeah, you might not get what you want right away (heck I am 31 and finally have the home and am pregnant) but you will be so thankful when it happens.

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