Post # 1
I was just wondering if any one else is experiencing a jealous sibling…I have a brother who is although very kind, used to being the center of attention. I am trying not to make a huge deal about the wedding or have my parents spend a ton of money, but every time they buy somehting for the wedding, he acts like its money out of his pocket??! I don’t get it, I know he is happy for me but I don’t know what to do so he doesn’t feel like I am ‘stealing’ from him when my parents spend money on me? Any one else come across this or have usggestions??
Post # 3
@BM-Matty: I have a jealous sister, but my scenario is slightly different than yours. My FI family is the one contributing to the wedding. I can easily choose to leave my sister out of the planning details, and that works well for me.
I know you don’t have the same option, but this is where you can bring parents in to assist. Does your brother have these outbursts in front of your parents? If so, your parents will be privy to his behavior. You can address your brother immediately after he makes his comments to show you won’t stand for it, and you can pull your parents aside and ask them to speak with him. Tell them what kind of unnecessary stress he’s putting on your shoulders, and ask them to approach him about it in private. He shouldn’t be making you feel badly about getting married. Likely he will be married one day as well.
If you’re not agreeable to that, ask your parents to kindly work on the wedding with you privately, and do not broadcast to your brother what’s being spent on you, or what kind of time your parents are putting in to orchestrating the event with you. Keep it as transparent to him as possible, and you’ll save lots of stress to yourself, and even to him. (Not that he matters much on YOUR day. 😉 )
Post # 4
Having your FI parents doing the helping does make it easier but I am sure its still a strain..I am going to leave it alone for not but did go over my budget and we are right where we need to be and my FI parents said they will take care of the rest. Thanks for the advice! Silbings are our forever so I try to keep our relationship smooth!