Jealousy is an evil thing..and I am guilty of it.

posted 3 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
1715 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

O I know how you feel.  My cousin’s best friend is 17 and is pregnant and her boyfriend just proposed to her, they plan on getting married in 6 months after she turns 18.  Its not a good situation due to other stuff on top of the teenage pregnancy while they are in highschool.  But jeeze did I feel jealous at first! Like this 17 year old met her boyfriend, got pregnant, then got engaged and will be married all in the span of my engagement!  I got over that real fast because she is going to struggle hard.  But the rest of my pregnant or mommy friends out there make me feel super jealous.  Now is so not a good time for FI and I to start having kids but seeing all the baby pictures and toddler pictures and videos on facebook is making my womb hurt.  Ugh, terrible.  I just gotta keep telling myself babies will come when we are ready and can truly enjoy them and not stress as much as some of my friends are because they had their kids a little early in life.  At least we got the bee to vent to about our baby fever!!!

Post # 4
1817 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Baby fever does suck, but just think of some great hand me downs and advice you’ll get from your friends! You have a great position to learn from their mistakes.

I’m one of the first of my friends to have kids and I am in the total dark. No one can give me any special advice, let me in on the secret ‘omg must have baby item’, etc. So my DH and I are doing it alone. Its still fun and all that jazz, but kind of lonely when no one else has kids yet. And for the record I am 27 and my husband is 28.

Post # 5
6467 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Daizy914: I know what you mean. I told a good cousin of mine that kept asking me when are we going to have babies that we would have our first when she has her second one. She is 7 years younger than me and recently, I learned that she is pregnant with her second baby due sometime in July. I felt a bit down but yet happy for her. 

Post # 7
88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@Daizy914:  I was also afraid that we would not be able to conceive. That was like a nightmare of mine. But we were successful our first month of trying. So try not to think negatively until you actually try. Good luck to the both of you when the right time comes.

Post # 8
4827 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

@alyssaC:  I would NOT be jealous of a 17 year old pregnant. 

Post # 9
110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I know how you feel! It’s like as soon as Hubby and I decided to start ttc, there was a baby boom on my Facebook! They’re mostly people I’m not close to, but I was still jealous. I think the thing that really get to me is when pregnant couples say “it was a complete surprise!” It’s like, I’m happy for you, but go to hell(kidding!!) LOL

Post # 10
1372 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@Daizy914:  I totally get where you’re coming from.

Just this weekend, we were at my niece’s third birthday and my SIL’s family was there and a bunch of other kids and a newborn and it was super fun but then my mom tells SIL’s mom that she is jealous because SIL’s mom has four grand babies and my mom only has two (my older brother’s two girls) and she gives me this look..

I just shrugged. Like.. You don’t think I want to already!? I’m 25 this year, everyone and their cat is having babies. Of course I wish I could give her more grand babies already.

Its not the right time for us either. We’re getting married next year and should be in a house and FI will be in a stabler job and I will be done school and have worked for a year and then we will be able to talk about it. Only then though. I don’t want to squish a baby into my tiny house OR my crazy schedule!

It sucks though. My friends are trying to make babies, accidentally making babies and I an just like.. yeah.. Welcome to my one bedroom basement suite, sorry I can’t fit more than like two dinner guests on account of a lack of dinner table. 

Ah youthhood. I love my young and free life, I really do. But I’m almost done with it. Freedom is overrated.

cue aching ovaries

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