(Closed) Jealousy/self-esteem/eating/weight/isssuuueeeessss…

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Father's Vineyard Church/ A Touch of Class Banquet Center

My best friend is a sie 6, and I’m a sie 16. I was worried about that too, but honestly on the day of, it was the furthest thing from my mind. Even in pictures I don’t really notice it because I look so happy and glowing that I am drawn to my face in the pictures. I wish I was healthier on my wedding day, but I can’t change that now and even leading up to it I really couldn’t. Believe me, I doubt you will think of it on that day. There will be too many other emotions and sights!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I know how you feel, and it totally sucks 🙁 I’m like this with my cousin who is petite beautiful and perfect looking. I’ve always been the tall curvy one. I’m not perfect with this and should take my own advice but what helps me is to accentuate the features I do like about myself. I like that I have hips so I like to show them off. Heels make me looking even lengthier so that helps. Whatever you like about yourself you should make sure you notice them. 

Post # 6
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325 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m so sorry you feel this way. As the bride I was the shortest one next to all my BMs, who are not only taller than me, but all chose 4-5″ heels. Buh. But you know what? Nobody was looking at them, because it was my day. I was the bride in the big white dress and I was gorgeous, and nobody was staring at anyone else but me. Even though one of my cousins is unfairly gorgeous and built like a Russian dancer. I can be jealous of her looks on every other day of my life, but not my wedding. 

Definitely play up what you love most about yourself, and feel free to be just a little self-focused. It’s your wedding day. And besides, the most flattering and beautiful thing of all is always looking like your best self, not like someone else’s best self. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@peachacid:  stop! i have self esteem issues as well (thanks Hollywood!), but you have got to stop being sohard on yurself. You will be glowing with happiness and will be radiant on your wedding day. I promise!

Post # 10
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366 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Listen, there is a man that has decided he wants to love you forever, and you are going to be the center of attention the ENTIRE day. Obviously this man finds you attractive, you cannot be ugly, even that word is hideous it shouldn’t be used. He is professing his love to you and you to him, and there is nothing more beautiful than that. No one will care about that girl because it’ll be your day, your love, and your life everyone is there to support. Your pictures will come back flawless and it’ll be perfect. I tell myself this “Love yourself, because you’re stuck with you the rest of your life.”

 

ETA: healthy=beautiful. If you’re feeling healthy and do stuff you love to do, it’ll make you look beautiful.

 

Maybe having a “training” session with the photography will help you out before the big day

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I have to agree with PP. Continuing to say these negative things turns it all into a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you truly cannot think of one single positive thing about yourself then go ask your fiance for a list. Surely he wouldn’t be marrying someone who had ZERO positive qualities. Does he like your eyes? Your lips? Your legs? Booty? Find out what he loves. Then try to see it like he does. But you can’t just sit around and mope or focus on everyone else’s qualities. That will solve nothing and make you feel worse.

Post # 14
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998 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

You have lost your mind! You should nit quit something you love to lose muscle.  Stop considering it. Also, you are NOTugly. And your wedding pictures will be so much better bc your photographer is a professional and you will have natural shots and not so many “posing” shots.

Post # 16
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366 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@peachacid:  Seriously, I’m not cringing at all. I’m a very blunt person and I wouldn’t say this if I didn’t mean it. You’re so totally cute! And you don’t look old AT ALL. Why would your fiance find you sexually attractive if you weren’t really? I feel like this too sometimes, a lot really, but then I put on something sexy and see my bf’s reaction to it and he loves it and it’ll reboot my confidence. I definitely think the planning or something is really getting to you and it has totally shot your nerves. I feel like you need a break, a day just to yourself and doing stuff that makes you feel good. 

Has anything else been going on that is stressing you out?

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