Jeweller said 1.8 mm band "too dainty" –?????

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@Lecate:  my band is 1.3mm! i think well made is the key. i don’t have pave because that requires them to drill holes and can reduce the density (obviously) and make the band less secure so i have shared prong – each tiny diamond has four tiny prongs 🙂 it’s beautiful and more durable. 

i also heard lots of ‘it’s too thin!’ – from friends etc when i showed them what we were having made, and when i got it, everyone took it back because it’s really well made. also – my mum’s solid gold wedding band is 1 mm and she’s worn it everyday for EVERYTHING for 32 years, no issue. my grandmother’s ering and wedding bands are 1.5mm and same thing, worn them for 50 years, no problem. 

here’s a picture of the shared prong

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

Mine is like 1.5 mm… it’s fine. Platinum is pretty strong.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

I’m pretty sure mine is 1.5 mm white gold. I need a “dainty” ring for my dainty fingers. I love it. Get it if you want it. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I have had the same response from my jeweler as well.

My FI picked out a stock setting that had a lot of pave diamonds.  Well, I lost 4 of the diamonds in around 2 months time.  We went back to the jeweler and he agreed to custom make the setting (and not charge us for it) and have it prong set instead of pave.

I literally just got a call from him saying he doesn’t think he can make it as thin as the premade one.  Well I should say he “could” but it will have the same problem as the original with the diamonds not being held in place very well.  He’s had his goldsmith make 3 waxes so far and they’re all much bulker than he thinks I would like (and he doesn’t like how they look either) but his goldsmith is basically saying the same thing your jeweler is – it could be done but not recommended.

So not to threadjack, but I’m back at square one.  I need to talk to FI and see what we’re going to do about it.

Post # 9
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Busy bee

Is it a big deal if it’s 1.8? If it were me, I don’t know if I’d want to take the chance.

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Mine is 1.9mm of bezel set diamonds. I think the way the diamonds are set is more relevant to the durability than the width itself.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My ER is 1.5mm and I’ve never had a problem with stones falling out or anything.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

I think the setting can make a difference like PPs have said, the more secure setting the better.

I have a 2.0 mm half eternity wedding band but friends of mine have 1.5 mm half eternity bands because they have one on each side of their e-ring and didn’t want the total to be too much for their finger. All of ours are channel set.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

+1 on the shared prong suggestion – it shows the metal a bit more but I feel very comforted knowing the stones are THERE.

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

My split twisted shank is probably that small and no problems in the last 2 years. And my wedding band is 1.8mm. I think it’s worth getting the ring you want. Even if a diamond falls out, at 1.8 mm wide that’s a tiny diamond chip and wouldn’t cost much to get repaired I bet. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

@Lecate:  1.8 would be more delicate than something bigger.  I definitely wouldn’t go with anyone who doesn’t feel comfortable with your ideas!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Lecate:  It sounds to me like she’s giving you her experienced opinion. That doesn’t mean other jewelers will feel the same but…its easy for someone who wants your money to say yes even if what you want isn’t practical or wise, particularly long term.

I’m not sure, but I think my platinum, pave’ wesding band is 2mm and it’s pretty dainty. I can believe something even thinner would be prone to problems…

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