Jewelry from mom… but I don't want it!

posted 3 years ago in Accessories
  • poll: Should I wear my mom's jewelry even though I don't like it?
    Grin and bear it. It's only one day after all. : (19 votes)
    68 %
    Say no. : (4 votes)
    14 %
    Other option? : (5 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 3
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    204 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @renwoman:  Is there any way you can include a piece of her jewelery without actually showcasing it? It seems like it’s fairly important to her, and it would be nice to do this to make her happy.  

    For example, a brooch, necklace or earring of hers tucked/pinned into your bouquet somewhere?

    Post # 4
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    729 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @renwoman:  maybe wrap it around your bouquet? or pin it in your dress? add a brooch to shoes? In other words wear it but not as jewelry

    Post # 5
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    3374 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2000

    @renwoman:  well you asked how to gracefully say no, so you gracefully say no thank you.

    Make an effort to paw through her pieces and if you truly can find nothing to wear, say in a regretful voice, Mom, sorry but I just don’t see anything here that will work on my wedding day.

    But do you think it’s possible there is a small pin or brooch that is –again, small–and that could be tucked in a place on your head or belt that she could see, but that wouldn’t be obvious?

    Or how about this–a ring can be sewn onto your garter. If you don’t have a garter, get one to solve this jewelry problem.

     

    Post # 6
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    1043 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Wait until you see what she brings before you jump to conclusions. She may have a darling little locket, or stunning diamond tennis brace,et that you didnt even know she had!

     

    if you still dont like it… Imnot sure…i would still wear it personally because my mom means the worldto me and if something was important to her, id do it without hesitation, even ifit totally clashed with my wedding “vision”

    Post # 8
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    3637 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    @xoCATox:  Exactly my thought. It is special to her to see what you can do. Perhaps if she is set on a necklace or something, wear it for a few photos preceromony and then take it off? 

     

    Post # 9
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    2537 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    She has to have something that you can wear in a semi-hidden fashion.

    Post # 10
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    6407 posts
    Bee Keeper

    In these situations, the sentimental value tends to far outweigh the aesthetic appearance. Unless the relationship with your mother is bad, so it has bad symbolism to wear her jewelry, but it doesn’t sound like it. In your place, I’d wear a hideous necklace (or whatever) from mom with pride.

    Post # 11
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    729 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @renwoman:  haha, I shouldnt laugh, but my mom does the same thing. Every Time. As in every time she has shown my her jewelry since I was little it’s in that “when I die” way.

    She does have some nice pieces though, including a kick ass Rolex that I would love to wear, except I dont want her to die. And whenever I think oh wow! that will be mine it is immediately followed by a shame attack

    Post # 13
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    204 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @renwoman:  My mum has a gorgeous 1.2ct round diamond ring which she always jokes will be mine “when she goes” and I alway just respond with “you better watch your back!”

    Now that she seems to be giving them to you piece by piece, perhaps that will stop this?

    Post # 14
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    1041 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Maybe you could pick out some jewelry that you really want to wear before thanksgiving and then tell your mom that your fiance, or best friend, or fiance’s mother or whoever bought it for you for the wedding and it means so much to them that you have to wear it, but you’d love to wear hers as the bouquet brooch thing?

     

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