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I LOATHE these parties. Whether it be jewelry or things for the home. Yes, you are 'supposed' to buy something because the more the host's guests purchase, the more the host gets discounts on items she would like and she might even get a free item depending on how much money was spent.
I always decline these. Not to mention the jewelry is just too pricey for me. I'd rather spend my money on something else or not at all.
Ugh, yes and I too dread them. Any kinds of these parties, whether it's tupperware, home decor, pampered chef, sex toys, LOL....I hate them all! You kind of are expected to buy something, but hopefully if there are a decent amount of people there, you will be able to slip out without having to do so. I've never attempted this, but my friends have done it haha. I'm too much of a wuss!
I agree. I hate these parties too. You are 'expected' to buy something and like stephinPA said the more guests buy the more the host get's in discounts/gifts. I've been to plenty over the years with my mom and there always seems to be a mix of people who buy and who just try to skip out...more depending on the size of the party.
Being that your new to the area, and I'm also a wuss, I would try to find something as resonable as possible to get. Who knows maybe you will find some great wedding jewelry!
I would just let your neighbor know when you arrive that you are so glad to be there, but that you do have to slip out early for another appointment. This way you get to slip out before that point, but you have headed off any perception of rudeness by telling her in advance.
i am one of those people that love going to these parties! I like meeting new neighbors and new people that you usually don't meet elsewhere. I have met a few friends from these parties so i suggest you go to meet some new neighbors. You are NOT required to buy anything at all BUT you will be a little pressured to do so since the hostess will get gifts depending on how much people buy. Also i tend to feel that i am contributing to a self-employed person (the seller) so i don't mind spending money (i used to be self-employed, its a tough job!). Also the stuff is usually really cute.
I always set a budget for myself on how much i want to spend (i bring cash and leave everything at home). I really suggest that if you don't want to spend ANY money at all, to decline the invite and see if theres another neighborhood party coming up. Don't start off on the wrong foot with neighbors, who knows how long you'll be around the neighborhood. Have fun!
Depending on the company, you could get away with an affordable purchase. Or you might be able to get away with taking a catalog for "later". The leave early technique should work.
Ugh, I hate these kind of things. I haven't been to one since I left suburbia but my mom used to drag me to them. You are kind of expected to buy something.
I agree, since you're new in the neighborhood, just try to find something reasonable to buy.
I've been having the same question too. In the department I used to be in it was a fad for a bit for one after the other girl to hold these parties and they would invite everyone to them, even if you wouldn't normally be invited to one of their get togethers. And it would have been a good opportunity to meet people that I didn't really ever have the need to interact with at work. And I don't mind buying something I like at the parties but I don't always find something I like and it's usually a big waste of money. It also rubbed be the wrong way that it was people who never had invited me to anything else or even were that friendly a bit so I almost always declined.
I guess I would have rather gone than not but it's weird feleling pressured to buy something you don't like in front of people you only kind of know.
Thanks for the advice. I was thinking about saying that I'd take a catalog or some kind of information back to the SO and see if he wanted to buy me a present. I'm really not a jewelry person at all. The only piece of jewelry I wear is the necklace he bought me for Christmas last year. Well, I guess I know now to decline in the future. Thanks again bees!
That's what I always do. I ask for either a catalog or a website where I can view something. I do look but rarely buy.
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My SO and I just moved to suburbia almost 2 months ago. I have a neighbor who is probably mid 50s that invited me to a jewelry party. I said I'd go because I didn't really know what else to say and alot of the neighbors will be there as well. I thought it would be nice to go and meet everyone. I told my mom and she said that I'd be expected to buy something. Is this true or is it just polite to do so? Should I have declined the invitation since I'm not really planning on buying anything?