Post # 1
Ok so here is the deal. My SO and I have been out to the mall like once a week for the past few weeks and I feel like all the jewelry stores are staring both of us in the face. This is to the point where I now feel weird. And now…there are commercials all over the tv whether they are for rings or not.
We openly talk about marriage/engagement for the most part and he likes to tease me about it. Which confuses the hell out of me. He has made it VERY clear that he is not in a hurry and it wouldn’t be for awhile. But…he took a jewelry book that I threw in the trash after he said I had ring fever (it was not mean and I wasn’t angry, just decided he might be feeling pressured by it and I tossed it..besides you can see them online). I noticed it wasn’t in the trash later that day and found it in his overnight bag (we were at my Mom’s house) so I took it out. Last night we got back to my (our) apartment and he asks me if I took it and why. I told him why and he was like “you don’t know what I am planning”…WTF stop confusing me. Boys… Oh by the way, I don’t have ring fever but I did check out what my local jeweler had just for future reference 😛
Anyone else feel like this or getting slapped in the face by holiday ads?
Post # 3
@HopefulInLove: I am right there with you. Every time we are watching TV there is some ad about how every kiss begins with Kay or something like that. I always wish I could disappear when those commercials come on because I feel like he might perceive them as pressure and it could backfire even though the pressure isn’t coming from me. Now I only want to rent movies and skip the TV until the holidays are over.
But your situation sounds promising!! Sounds like he has something up his sleeve. Good luck.
Post # 4
Ha! YES. So awkward. I know it’s right around the corner so I always try to talk over them or get up and do something, but sometimes the timing just isn’t right and we have to sit quietly through the whole thing. It reminds me of when I was younger and condom commercials would come on with my mom in the room just DYING to have “the talk”. Soooo awkward!
Post # 5
Yes, it sounds like he’s trying to tell you it’s closer than you think. I totally understand what you mean about all the ads though, they are driving me bonkers too! They make me feel super awkward, and I agree that they kinda make you feel like your guy is gonna feel pressured by the commercials and scare them off!
Post # 6
Hmmm. I agree with MisfitPrincess, that it sounds as if he may be up to something!
I would definitely apologize to him for taking the brochure out of his overnight bag, give it back to him, and acknowledge that he is right — you don’t know anything about what he may be planning. I would then sweetly thank him for showing an interest in something in which you’ve expressed an interest, and tell him you love him. Then, give him a kiss, tell him you definitely don’t want to pressure him but you do want him to know that it makes you happy to know that he’s at least thinking about a future with you. Then I would tell him that you will refrain from making any further comments about rings and jewelry for awhile, because you do not want to know anything about anything that he may — or may not — be planning or when, since you would want to be surprised if and when that time DOES come.
I think that will result in a positive response! 🙂
Post # 7
@KJM2013: HA!! The condom commercial analogy is too funny!
Post # 8
Ah yes they have started, nearly between every programme now. They show this sparkly engagement ring too, and it just sinks my heart when I see it even though I know I will get mine eventually, haha I am so silly!
Post # 9
One for Jared comes on and he’s like do you want me to take you there? And I’m like yes! But I know he is joking and I’ve made it clear I want to go to the local jeweler!