Post # 1
There are three couples among our guests who’re both Jewish and pregnant right now, whose babies will be born before the wedding. (And 4 other non-Jewish couples!) For the non-Jewish couples, we’re addressing the save the dates to “John, Sue, and Baby Smith,” but FI insists we shouldn’t make any mention of the not-yet-born babies on the Jewish couples’ invitations because it’s Jewish tradition not to talk about or prepare for an unborn baby in case something goes wrong with the pregnancy. I’m happy to respect that, but will those couples think their babies won’t be invited? If “baby Smith” is on their non-Jewish friends’ invitation but “baby Jones” isn’t included on theirs?
Post # 2
I wouldn’t include Baby on the STDs, but I think it’s okay for the invitiations, and by then they will have been born or at least pretty close.
Post # 3
Don’t address the unborn babies on the Save the Date.
Post # 4
Just leave it off for tradition. And after the baby is born, you can just talk to them and let them know the baby is also invited. Even though it seems like a cute idea, leaving unborn babies off all of the STDs/invitations is probably the safest bet.
Post # 5
I would leave it off for now and then use the baby’s name on the actual invite or if you really wanted to be clear they are invited now say something like “the smith family”
Post # 6
Thanks for the help, everyone! Would it be acceptable for us to tell the couples that their babies are welcome, even though they’re not listed on the invitation? I want them to know that they can bring their babies before they buy plane tickets, because the moms will almost certainly need to stay home to breastfeed if the babies aren’t invited to the wedding.
Post # 7
yes, don’t put the unborn babies on the invitations. mention to the mothers that their babies are welcome. i don’t know how close they are giving birth to your wedding, but if it is close, they might not be able to travel with their LOs yet.
you could also address it Smith Family. but I like the formalily of Mr. and Mrs. Joe Smith for wedding invitations. your call.
Post # 8
Yeah, they might not want to travel with their babies yet, but I want them to know they have the option.