(Closed) Jewish brides – are you circling

posted 5 years ago in Jewish
Post # 3
403 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I am!! I’m excited!! Here’s the text we’re putting in our program:

Jewish weddings traditionally begin with the bride circling the groom seven times. There are various interpretations of this ritual: Seven is the number of days of creation, and the wedding ceremony is the creation of a new household; there are seven wedding blessings; and seven is the number of times the phrase “when a man takes a wife” occurs in the Torah (the first five books of the Hebrew Bible). By circling [FH] seven times, [shaynapunim] will intertwine their lives and form a new family circle.

Post # 4
5011 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

I didn’t, but we had a secular ceremony rather than a religious one.

Post # 5
1628 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I didn’t. The logistics at the venue just never would have worked. And it didn’t hold any special meaning for me personally (and since its not a requirement it just felt like it made the ceremony too long for me).

Post # 6
51 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Yes and so excited about it! I think it’s beautiful.

Post # 7
1095 posts
Bumble bee

I think it’s a beautiful tradition, however we didn’t do it for two reasons:

1) my dress and train were so long that it would have been a tangled mess

2) originally, the tradition was practiced by the very orthodox communitties to symbolize the bride making her husband her top priority. It’s a custom that has been greatly re-appropriated by modern Jews. Since we are modern orthodox (conservative leaning), we didn’t feel the necessity to use the traditionally orthodox custom in our ceremony, especially since it wouldn’t be representing the entirety of it’s original meaning (with the advent of feminism how could it?).

That being said, I’ve seen it done at many wedding and find it to be very moving! It just wasn’t the right fit for us…

Post # 8
664 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’m going to do it!

I am circling Fiance 3 times, he is going to circle me 3 times and then once together.

Post # 9
5494 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

We didn’t for a few reasons.

1. I was once in a play where I played a jewish bride and I lost count while circling the groom and ended up doing 9 laps.  it was embarrassing and I didn’t want that to happen on our wedding day.

2. I had a cathedral length train and veil and that would have been a nightmare to manage.

My friend circled her groom and it was like the most seductive yet funny circling ever.  I could never compete with that.  haha.

Post # 10
492 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I did, but I didn’t want to.  It was a tradition that my husband strongly cared about including, so I compromised.  Our moms carried my train and it made for some great pictures.

Post # 11
144 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I did, and it was lovely! My dad kept a silent count for me and told me when it was the last one, just to prevent the worry that Meowkers had!

Post # 12
28 posts
  • Wedding: October 2013

Yes. When my good friends married, it was so beautiful, simple, and meaningful. I was thoroughly convinced we needed it to be a part.

The words from the prophet Jeremiah (chapter 31) came to mind: “. . . A woman shall encircle a man.” There is something so caring and devoted in that moment, binding our lives together. 

Post # 13
109 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I haven’t decided yet… but I’m leaning toward not. 

Post # 14
240 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I did! But we had an Orthodox ceremony. My dress didn’t have a train, but I wore a cathedral veil and my mother held it for me while I circled. I think its a beautiful tradition.

Post # 15
1583 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I did. We had a very traditional Jewish wedding. I was worried about messing up the count, but every time I passed in front of my husband he said the number for me.

Post # 16
216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I did; traditional conservative ceremony. The rabbi counted for me. My Maid/Matron of Honor picked up my train and handed it to me; it wasn’t a big deal. I like the tradition in terms of creating a “holy” space for you and your husband with family and friends surrounding you.

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