Post # 1
So I am planning my wedding and I really want it to include both a Rabbi for my FI and a priest/deacon for me. Sent out some inquiries to local temples and churches inquirying the availabilty and requiments. Fingers crossed
my question now, is from my catholic experience, one of the main questions or requirments they ask, is that our future children be raised Catholic. We plan to raise them Catholic since my husband really isnt a practicing Jew who wouldnt know a real thing or two in raising a child Jewish.( the ceremony is mostly for his family) Does the Jewish religion require that we pledge to raise our children Jewish in order for him to be married and blessed by a Rabbi? Do we tell them the truth that we plan to raise Catholic or do we lie ( I would feel terrible lying)
any insight, obstacles anyone encountered that you can share?
Post # 2
ms_fifi: I’m not sure there is a straightforward answer to your question. Many Rabbis won’t perform an interfaith ceremony, period. Those that will perform an interfaith ceremony, from my experience, are typically very reform and liberal in their thinking. I’m not sure if they would ask you if you plan on raising your children in one faith or another… but if they did I definitely wouldn’t lie about it!
Post # 3
I don’t know the answer to your question, but I know I wouldn’t lie. If the priest or rabbi won’t perform the ceremony unless you do or promise to do something you’re not comfortable with, then you should re-think whether and why you want to incorporate that religion into your ceremony. I think it’s perfectly fine for them to have their rules and it’s perfectly fine for you to disagree with them, but I don’t think it would be ok to lie just to get the ceremony you envisioned. I do hope it works out though. Best wishes!
Post # 4
Although I don’t know the answer, my guess would be that a lot would depend on whether your husband’s family are Reformed or Orthadox.