Post # 1
I am getting married in 20 days… my fiance was raised Jewish, I was raised Catholic and now I am an atheist and he is agnostic. I wrote the ceremony myself avoiding anyn religious elements since it was too hard to include both sides without getting hurt and keep the ceremony true to who WE are now. I don’t want to make my in-laws mad/upset because we don’t want to do the glass breaking, and I feel bad since they are having our rehearsal dinner, but I don’t feel it is fair to have their tradition and nothing for my family…
Anyways… what would you do? I was thinking maybe doing the glass breaking at the rehearsal, even though it’s not technically the way its done??? Argh!
Post # 3
Why do you have to have the glass breaking? Did they say something to you about it? Also, just curious, why are you so opposed to breaking the glass? It’s so much fun! I was raised Christian and my husband was raised Jewish but he is atheist and I am agnostic, we wrote our ceremony and had no mention of god or religion or anything like that but the one tradition that we included was breaking the glass because it was fun! Everyone loved it!
Anyways, I don’t think you need to have it and I think his family can get over it if you don’t do it!
Post # 4
Well they do want us to do it. I am not opposed to it, I just know that my family would be offended if there was a Jewish tradition and no Catholic tradition. I want both sides to be comfortable and not upset anyone, which obviously won’t happen…. in the end that was a big reason why I just wanted to do a simple ceremony with no lean towards either side of the family..
Post # 5
@nomaderica22: Have you said anything to your family about it? Maybe they wouldnt have such an issue with one tradition from one side and not one from the other. It doesnt hurt to ask! For our ceremony, I included an Irish blessing (I called it a reading on our program) so that we had something from my side as well.
Post # 6
I would talk to both sets of parents. My parents – especially my father – are very observant Catholics. FI & I were raised Catholic, and are not – he considers himself agnostic, and I’m athiest. When we mentioned we wanted a secular ceremony at our reception site, my dad (who I was expecting would pull for a church wedding) didn’t hesitate, said “Whatever you want.”
You might be surprised.