(Closed) Jewish/Methodist Wedding

posted 9 years ago in Jewish
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m not a Jewish bride (I’m Catholic) but my fiance is Jewish so we’ve been through this discussion .  For us, it is also his extended family that we were concerned about and we decided to have the ceremony outside.  We are trying to keep things equal and we decided that it would be too one-sided to have the ceremony in a place that was typically associated with Christianity. 

I checked out the website and that place is beautiful!  Maybe you could compromise by putting up a Chuppah inside the Chapel?  Talk to your Dad and see what he thinks.

Post # 4
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94 posts
Worker bee

I am a Jewish bride- but my opinion doesn’t matter- you and your fiance’s opinions do!! The relatives that have a problem with it in a chapel will already likely have a problem that its a mixed ceremony anyway. You aren’t going to be able to please everyone. I do think that having a chuppah inside the chapel would at least even it out a little. Its also a generational thing– the older the relatives, the more likely they are to be offended typically.  Also- maybe having a ketubah on display (you can get ones with non-denominational or customized vows/prayers) could be nice.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018 - Hotel Vitale

I don’t have a great answer for you. Mr. Peeps is Jewish, and well, I am not. A Rabbi is marrying us, but in order to make sure my Dad’s faith feels represented we are having him do a reading. I think it is all about keeping a balance. And I think JessinNY is right- if they have a problem being in a chapel they might already have a problem with it being an interfaith wedding.

Talk to your Dad. Your venue looks great- any chance you could do the ceremony outsite on-site?? 

Best of luck!!!

Post # 8
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Worker bee

Ketubahs, Ketubahs- There’s so many options, its mind boggling. Be prepared, some can get pricey- average $150-400. As for displaying it at the church, you’ll want to order a mat or specialty frame for it- otherwise its just a rolled up piece of paper. You can order them from many of the sites customized to fit your particular ketubah.

  There are many sites online- just google ketubah and you’ll get a bunch

 http://www.ketubah.com/    (has a section for budget ketubahs at $150)

http://www.shopketubah.com/

http://www.modernketubah.com/ketubah_interfaith.php

http://www.mpartworks.com/ketubah_studio.htm

http://artketubah.com/

Once you find some designs you like, you need to make sure that the artist or company can put in text that you approve of- some options are:

Interfaith Text: Although some of our Interfaith texts are English only, most include a Hebrew introduction. Each artist has written his or her own Interfaith text, so there is a fairly large degree of variation in the wording that appears on different ketubot. The Interfaith texts make fewer references to the Jewish tradition and are suitable for interfaith marriages.

Secular Humanistic Text: The Secular Humanistic text is required by the Association of Humanistic Rabbis and the Leadership Conference of Secular and Humanistic Jews. There are two versions of the text: One is English only while the other is English with a Hebrew introduction. The Hebrew is a direct translation of the English text. Both texts are suitable for an interfaith marriage.

Write Your Own/Blank Text: This text option was created for those couples who love a particular design but wish to write their own text. It is also referred to as a custom text. The pricing for custom texts varies from artist to artist.

This is ours- http://www.galleryjudaica.com/Product.aspx?product=785  It was ordered from a local Judaica store though.

Post # 9
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Worker bee

OMG, I just wrote this really long post for you and it disappeared…Grrrr. Let me try again. There’s many sites online that you can order from, and there are many different text options (be warned- they are pieces of art, so they are not cheap. They average 150-450). If you google ketubah you will get many sites- here are a few:

 <font color=”#008000″>www.ketubah.com/   (has a budget section for $150)</font>

<font color=”#008000″>www.modernketubah.com/ </font>

<font color=”#008000″>http://www.shopketubah.com</font>

<font color=”#008000″>http://www.mpartworks.com/ketubah_studio.htm</font>

Post # 10
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Worker bee

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<font color=”#008000″><font color=”#000000″>Secular Humanistic Text: The Secular Humanistic text is required by the Association of Humanistic Rabbis and the Leadership Conference of Secular and Humanistic Jews. There are two versions of the text: One is English only while the other is English with a Hebrew introduction. The Hebrew is a direct translation of the English text. Both texts are suitable for an interfaith marriage</font></font>

Write Your Own/Blank Text: This text option was created for those couples who love a particular design but wish to write their own text. It is also referred to as a custom text. The pricing for custom texts varies from artist to artist.

BTW- this is ours http://www.galleryjudaica.com/Product.aspx?product=785  it was ordered from a local judaica store

Post # 11
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Worker bee

One more piece of advice- Most sites sell customized mats for ketubot or special frames. Check them out. That way you can display it the day of.

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