Job Interview + Awkward TTC Question!

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’m not sure of the laws where you live, but where I am, it is illegal for an employer to discriminate based on age, gender, sexual orientation, marital status or pregnancy. I also don’t think employers are allowed to ask you if you’re TTC. I’m worried about getting this question myself- I think your response was the best way to go about it. Don’t feel guilty, if it happens, it happens and they can work around it!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

I was just about to say the same as previous posters.  They’re not allowed to ask. It doesn’t help you now but if you’re offered the job, take it and say no more.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Nevermind! Gave advice for the US accidentally.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

@MeeShell:  “Well I wouldnt say no because its always a possibility, however I dont imagine it will be in the near future.”

You said “imagine” you didn’t say “plan.”

Plans change. Take the job if/when they offer it to you. It’s not something you can 100% control anyway!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@MeeShell:  I’ve had the opposite, I have had an interviewer chew me out for being 28 and not settled down! She literally got a disgusted look in her face and said: ‘well how do  know you’ll stay for longer than 12 months considering you are not even settled yet!’

 

I was so shocked, I got home and emailed her back saying: lose my CV, I would never be comfortable working for you.

 

It’s a tough one OP; sometimes it’s damned if you do and damned if you don’t.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Uh. Yea. That would be illegal but at the same time what can you do? I image this is a small operation without an HR dept. If they were any type of sizable company I’d be emailing HR as soon as I got home. I also wouldn’t choose to work from someone like that anyways. If you still really want the job, keep your mouth shut until you know.

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

In the US, they are NOT allowed to ask you that nor are you required to answer!  I wouldn’t want to work for a company like that to begin with!  I definitely wouldn’t feel guilty.  What assholes!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’m in the US, but I agree with PPs.  NOT okay to ask.  Even if it’s not the law, it’s a touchy subject as far as discrimination goes.

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I wouldn’t tell them a thing, it’s not their business.  I’m currently 10w3d pregnant and interviewing for jobs and I’m not telling them at all.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

That IS an illegal question. Unfortunately, it’s one that I’ve been asked as well.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@MeeShell:  Seems like a good attitude! I actually had this debate with my friend today, he thinks if I am in the early stages of pregnancy when interviewing for a new job, I should tell my employer. He doesn’t know this, but I recently had a MC at 9 weeks of pregnancy, so NO, I will not be telling any potential/current employer that I am pregnant until it becomes so obvious from looking that I can’t avoid it any more. You just never know what would happen–why add to the pain of a potential MC by also losing out on a job and/or having to explain to your employer what happened? 

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I think it’s all been covered here I just wanted to add that I thought you replied perfectly!! well done!

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