Post # 1
I’m SO stoked right now. I am a certified teacher in Southwest, PA. Bees from this area.. you know how hard it is to find a teaching job. I’m talking hundreds of applicants per opening. (Not an exaggeration).
I graduated in May, so it’s a huge suprise to get a call. They want to interview me for a long-term substitute position starting the first day. I’m getting married the 2nd week of school. I don’t plan to take any days off (no honeymoon if I get this job), but should I not wear my engagement ring just to ward of speculation? I don’t want to be deceptive, but I also don’t want them to think, “Oh, she’s getting married at the start of the year, there’s no way she’ll be focused enough.”
Post # 3
Wear it. Who cares; I don’t think it will be a big deal for employers to know that you have a life. You should be fine.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
If there’s any chance it might hurt your chances, sure, don’t wear it!
Post # 5
I’m not a teacher, but I don’t think it should matter. Just because you have an engagement ring doesn’t mean you’re getting married anytime soon. But if you’re worried, its better safe than sorry-so I’d say not to wear it.
Post # 6
Hmmm. I honestly don’t know. My first response was “yes,” but I understand your concern. Of course, they may not even notice your ring or think anything of it. For all they know, you aren’t getting married for a year or more.
Post # 7
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@OnceUponATime: If it’s huge then no. I work in hiring and unless we plan on paying you at lot we assume you won’t be working for us for very long since your husband probably makes a ton of money and once you are married or have kids you will likely stay home with them. However, having a wedding band with it says stability and shows a willingness to work. Not having any rings usually means drama, especially if you’re under 30. Not saying any of this is true, it’s just what hiring managers and recruiters think when they see rings.
Post # 8
- Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand
I wouldn’t. Especially since it might spark a conversation and you may inadvertently blurt out your wedding date.
Post # 9
@OnceUponATime: I think it depends on the line of work. I’m a flight attendant and always made myself seem “single” in flight attendant interviews. Right or wrong, I want to be percieved as able to leave home for days on end.
Post # 10
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
Crap, I’m very torn on this. I’m a teacher so I really understand how terrible the job market is!!!!!!
If you think it could make ANY difference, don’t wear it!!!! You said you’re not taking days off because of it so it’s not an issue.
Remember, they are forbidden by law to ask questions regarding marital status in an interview!!!
Post # 11
I’m not planning on changing jobs anytime soon, but I used to hypothetically think that wearing an engagement ring would make an employer think I may not be sticking around for some reason. But then I figured “who cares?” It seems kind of weird and dishonest , IMO, for someone to be ringless and then pop one out after they’ve been on the job for a while. Not like it’s anyone’s business, but people judge about those things whether it’s right or not. Just be who you are from the get-go.
And on the flip side of that “what if she leaves” argument, some interviewers may unconsciously interpret the engagement ring as a good thing. For example, some people may think that someone with an engagement/wedding band is more stable and less likely to leave than an unmarried person who doesn’t have a spouse/kids to tie them down in a similar location. Just food for thought!
Post # 12
I would not. You don’t want to give them any chances to judge you for something you CAN help. They see ring, and think distractions with wedding planning, wedding coming up, honeymoon, then kids and maternity leave. Even if that’s not true, it’s not like you’re going to say “hey, btw, even though I’m wearing a ring my wedding is X date and I’m not taking a honeymoon and I won’t be having kids for years”. Tell them what you need to once you accept the position.
Post # 13
I wore my engagement ring to an interview recently AND told them I would need a little over a week off in less than 6 months if they hired me amd I still got the job… It wasn’t a teacher position but just thought I’d share my experience.
Post # 14
@beachbride1216: Interesting points. It looks big at a glance (side pave, raised center), but if you actually look at it, it’s a cluster and was $1200. I’m 22 at the moment, so I would imagine no rings at this age is the norm. Does that change your opinion any? Would you consider someone who intentionally doesn’t wear her ring as deceptive?
@lealorali: Yes yes! Our field is so rough to get into. I think my biggest issue with not wearing it, is that being deceptive can be perceived as a personality flaw. A big one at that. I would hate for it to hurt me down the road.
They hire me. No ring. Two weeks later. BAM. I’m married.
@BHB0526: Lucky lady! It’s extra rough for us in the education field. When we need leave, they have to pay extra. If they see someone who is recently married and seems anxious for kids, they’re less likely to hire because it needs months of an extra substitute.
@kgirl91: Would you worry about being deceptive though?
Post # 15
i recently interviewed and decided not to wear mine bc i didnt want any one to even think for a minute that i mighy be distracted, need excessive time off or end up prego ….. better safe than sorry in my book
Post # 16
I wondered about this too, but my train of thought was ‘what if they assume I’m going to be trying for a baby as soon as I get married and I’m just going to skip out on them for 6 – 12 months?’.