Post # 1
So… a few months ago my FIL found a job in the paper for me. It’s similar to what I do now, but at a state run facility instead of a private agency. The base pay for the position is a lot more than I make now. When I applied hubs and I were trying to get pregnant, but weren’t yet. I sent in my info and then forgot about it. I wasn’t eager to change jobs, since I’ve only been here for a year. Granted I have a long commute each day and on top of the pay increase, this job would be 25 mins away instead of 55 mins each way.
Anyway, I forgot about it since I wasn’t very committed to move jobs. Then we got pregnant. Right now I’m about 7.5 weeks along. Two days ago I got a call for an interview! Totally caught me off guard, but I agreed to go interview.
My plan is to not mention anything about being pregnant at the interview. If, and only if, I was offered the position, I would tell them that I was pregant and how far along. I plan on taking 10 weeks maternity leave, and would let them know that while I do plan to take some time off, I would not be requesting an extended maternity leave and would definitely be returning to work.
I don’t even know if this is a good idea of not. One the one hand, it seems like a potential answer to our prayers because it’s closer, in a better area for dr apts and day care, as well as the increase in salary. The baby and a new house is a lot to handle at once. On the other hand it seems like it could be risky. I don’t like changing jobs, even though I’m not entirely happy where I am (mostly satisfied). What if I don’t like the job, what if I don’t do well at it, what if I have a hard time getting time off for maternity leave since I’m new? (I’d be there about 5-6 months before taking time off, as I have to give 4 weeks notice). I know I might not even be offered the position, but all this is still running through my head.
Has anyone changed jobs while pregnant? At what point did you tell them you were pregnant? If I am offered the position before I have my dr apt, should I tell them or wait until the dr apt confirms that things are okay?
Post # 3
I have not been in your shoes but I have been on the other side of the table, looking to hire a candidate. Employers cannot base hiring decisions on whether the candidate is pregnant, but subconciously they do and sadly, they will probably knit pick unti they find another reason not to hire you. If it’s a job that you really want, I don’t think you should tell them about your pregnancy. If you do tell them, don’t expect to get the job. I know that sounds harsh but I just don’t want you to get your hopes up. Also, as a hiring manager, I would highly recommend that you think this through BEFORE you even interview so as to not waste their time with the interview process if changing jobs is not truly something you are 100% sure you want to do at this point in your life.
P.S. Congrats on your pregnancy. Becoming a mom is definitely more important than any old job ~ current or new!!
Post # 4
It sounds like this job is something that would be a great move for you professionally and also be really beneficial for your family. But I agree that you should NOT tell them about your pregnancy until you have been offered the position. If you decide to accept, do so, and then tell them. They can not revoke the offer based on your disclosure of your pregnancy. If they do, you will have a lovely little settlement package coming your way.
Post # 5
If you do decide that you want to switch jobs I wouldn’t tell them until after you got the job. A potential employer can’t ask you if you’re pregnant, and they aren’t supposed to base their decision on whether or not you are pregnant, but chances are they will anyways and choose another “more qualifed” (and less pregnant) candidate.
Post # 6
I think you should be upfront about it. I know several people who have done this, and their bosses are more than willing to accomidate them. I think it’s bad form to hide something as big as a baby – if they don’t want to hire you based on pregnancy, you probably don’t want to be working for them in the first place.
Post # 7
I interviewed for jobs at 12 weeks pregnant. I did not mention the pregnancy and they didn’t ask. I start work Sept 1. Don’t open that bag of worms if you can help it. Just go and interview and be the best candidate you can be!
Post # 8
I spoke to my mom and step mom and they both said not to say anything until I had accepted the offer, assuming it was offered and I wanted to accept. They also said that if I hadn’t been to the doctor yet, not to say anything until the dr confirms that things are going well with the pregnancy. My interview is next Wed and my dr apt is 8/30. It’d be a 2 week gap, and I know they are only interviewing this week and next week. At the dr apt I’ll be 10 weeks.
I am debating about changing jobs because of the economy. I’m a little hesitant because I don’t want to get a job only to be cut due to state budget a few months or a year later. Where I am right now is secure, even if my commute is longer and pay less. So I have lots of questions for the interview. If I felt that the job security is there, and I was offered the position, I’d likely accept it.
So much to think about!
Post # 9
First of call, congratulations on the pregnancy and the job interview! It sounds like this job would be great for you and your family. As others have said, don’t mention the pregnancy until after the job is offered, or else you may not get it. Also, I don’t have experience with this personally, but a close friend of mine got a new job while she was pregnant, and she really had to fight to get maternity leave. Her new employer originally didn’t want to give it to her because she hadn’t been with the company for a year. She fought, and was eventually able to get 12 weeks, but just keep in mind that you may have a fight ahead of you.
Post # 10
@Merry02 has a good point. I just looked up some information about FMLA, this is what I found on the US Dept of Labor Website:
“FMLA applies to all public agencies, all public and private elementary and secondary schools, and companies with 50 or more employees. These employers must provide an eligible employee with up to 12 weeks of unpaid leave each year for any of the following reasons:
- for the birth and care of the newborn child of an employee;
- for placement with the employee of a child for adoption or foster care;
- to care for an immediate family member (spouse, child, or parent) with a serious health condition; or
- to take medical leave when the employee is unable to work because of a serious health condition.
Employees are eligible for leave if they have worked for their employer at least 12 months, at least 1,250 hours over the past 12 months, and work at a location where the company employs 50 or more employees within 75 miles. Whether an employee has worked the minimum 1,250 hours of service is determined according to FLSA principles for determining compensable hours or work.”
So basically the new job would not be required to give you maternity leave until you’ve been there a year. That’s not to say they wouldn’t allow you to take it, just that they don’t have to.
Post # 11
Just remember, you’re not going to qualify for FMLA unless you’ve worked in that workplace for a year. You may be giving up leave for when you have the baby by making a job change.
Post # 12
Congrats on the pregnancy and interview.
I think you are putting the cart before the horse. If you are interested in this job, then interview and see if its something you really like. Do not mention your pregnancy during the interview process. During the interview process, you can ask questions about how secure the position is (your concern about funding being cut and your job being eliminated).
Assuming you are offered the job, at that time you can decide if you want to accept the offer. At that time you should discuss maternity leave. Not sure what the policies are for a government agency, but may companies require you to work a certain number of months before you are eligable for maternity leave. Of course, you may be able to negotiate this in advance. FYI – some employers offer more than 10 weeks of maternity leave, so don’t reveal your plans until you hear what their benefits are.
Post # 13
While it’s nice and courteous to tell your employer (once you have the job!) it’s not required by law until you need to discuss maternity leave. It’s also illegal for an employer to ask and/or to make employment decisions based on you being pregnant. So pretty much, go to the interview, go to the doctor and when you truly know what all of your options are, you can make an informed decision from there.
It seems to me this is less an issue of when to disclose your pregnancy and more making sure you can take leave when the baby comes and will have benefits from the beginning – some employers also have a probationary period where you are not eligible for insurance until you’ve worked X number of days or months.
Good luck with the interview and the pregnancy!
Post # 14
I have great benefits through my husbands school, so I’m not concerned about insurance. His plan covers 100% of prenatal care and maternity care. I didn’t think about not being able to take maternity leave if I hadn’t been there a whole year yet. I’ll have to look into that. I might be able to inquire to the state benefits office anonymously. I don’t think i could not be home with our newborn.
Thanks for all the input.
Post # 15
Definitely don’t tell them, as other people have stated, though they can not technically disqualify you for that, they can find other reasons. Also, 10 weeks is longer than the standard maternity leave at a lot of companies, so demanding that specific time frame up front may not actually be ok. But you would have 4-6 months at the job before leave, so it’s not like you’d be there a few weeks and then taking off.
Post # 16
Oh, and I was assuming you meant paid leave. Obviously you can take up to 12 weeks unpaid. My company gives 8 weeks paid, for example. Just something to keep in mind, since money is obviously a huge issue when starting a family 🙂