Post # 1
I have a teaching interview next week (as a side note, thanks all you teacher bees for help on the phone interview – apparently it went well!), and I remember reading something a while back about how you shouldn’t wear your engagement ring on an interview. Why is this? Anyone have thoughts about it? Should I keep it on or take it off? Also, any tips on what to wear would be great too.. I was thinking pantsuit (or blazer and skirt) but is this too formal/boring for a HS teaching job? I know teachers typically don’t wear suits to work, but are you supposed to get more dressed up for an interview? Anyway, I was just curious about the ring/interview issue. Thanks!
Post # 3
I’ve never heard any advice about not wearing an engagement ring to a job interview, and I don’t think there is anything wrong with wearing it, or conversely, not wearing it. I wouldn’t do anything to bring attention to it (like fidgeting with it or anything), but I don’t see a problem with it!
Definitely go with some sort of a suit, whether it be pant or skirt, with either a pressed button down shirt, or a nice sweater underneath. You want to dress your best to present yourself well, regardless of how you may dress once you start the job.
Post # 4
I wore my ring to an interview, and I got the job :D.
I was always told as a rule of thumb to dress two steps above what you would normally wear in the position you are applying for. So in that case, a pant suit or the skirt and blazer are probably right on target.
Post # 5
I am a teacher too, and wearing a suit to interviews is a must! Also, you may want to make sure you wear a blouse under your blazer, not just a cami. I don’t know where you live, but if you wear a skirt suit, make sure you wear pantyhose and closed-toe shoes…some areas are really strict about the little stuff. I’d def wear my ring and be proud though! Good luck!
Post # 6
Ooooh there was a long thread about this a while back I think. From what I remember, the arguments against wearing your ring fell into 2 camps, 1) the employer will assume that you, as a woman, are either going to be too busy planning a wedding to get the job done right (if you’re only wearing an e-ring) or will be planning on getting pregnant and taking time off and 2) it’s “flaunting wealth”. I’d like to say I don’t agree with either argument, but I don’t have any experience with which to back that up. Either way I will probably be wearing my engagement ring to any interview I attend.
I think you can’t go wrong with a suit or a blazer and a skirt. I always think it’s better to be a bit more dressed up than to be dressed down and appear sloppy. Shows you care about getting the job, IMO.
Oh and good luck!!
Post # 7
I wore my engagement ring to a job interview and they asked me if they would have to worry about me taking time off for a wedding and honeymoon. I was caught a little off guard considering it was my first interview with them and it was extremely short. Not sure if that was appropriate. I didn’t end up taking the job
Post # 8
I didn’t wear my engagement ring to my job interview (at a hospital). I knew they were looking for someone more permanent, and would probably think that I wouldn’t be available come wedding/honeymoon time. I got the job and ended up wearing my ering to the orientation. The manager raised an eyebrow and said “oh! you’re engaged?!” Hell yes I am.
Post # 9
Blouse, blazer, pants or skirt, hose, closed two shoes.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with you wearing a ring– in fact I think teaching might look more favorably on a ring. (I do agree that some jobs might get wary about vacation-time, but most schools have summers off for a wedding/honeymoon!)
Post # 10
I’m a law student, and a few months ago I did a ton of interviews with big firms. The career services office at my school actually told us that young engaged/married women should take off our rings. I was shocked, but it made sense (law firms don’t want to hire someone who will get pregnant and become a Stay-At-Home Mom after a couple years, or someone who will end up being gone a lot for maternity leave).
I didn’t do it though. I felt like it was lying (they’d find out I was married eventually anyway!). I did really well in interview season anyway and got a job with my first-choice firm. I just think it’s sad that a career services office would feel the need to suggest something like that.
I think a suit is appropriate for any interview!
Interestingly enough, married men were told to DEFINITELY wear their rings… apparently for men it’s a sign of commitment and work ethic (shows they have a family to support). Crazy.
Post # 11
@WhatMaeBee: I’m in Boston so I’d be wearing pantyhose or freezing my butt off! And I’ve always been on the side of never wearing open toed shoes to anything related to work. Thanks for the tips.
@littlegraykitten: Very interesting! Wouldn’t the first one be discrimination? I guess you could never prove it though.. I think my ring is an average size for this area and wouldn’t draw attention to my finger, so I guess I’ll wear it!
@MlleBrielle: Wow I can’t believe they were so blunt about it! Maybe I’ll prepare myself for this.. it may actually be an issue though because we picked our wedding date before I knew I would be graduating and possibly starting a new job in the fall. I’m assuming I would need a couple days off before the wedding but I was planning on postponing the honeymoon.
Post # 12
I think it depends on the place. I am a teacher and teachers go on maternity all the time. My principal and many others in the district are all moms and are VERY accomidating to that sort of thing, very supportive! But in other jobs yes, they do get more uppity about leaving to go on maternity. (But if you are getting married it might be awhile before getting pregnant and such…some people are so weird!)
Post # 13
My old job was at a big corporate type setting. You know, the kind where you play the game where you’re the first one there and the last one to leave, so no one leaves until at least 10 hours after they came in because no one wants to be the slacker and no one dare leaves until all people who rank higher than them have left. Well my boss who was in charge of hiring people said flat out that he looks at people’s ring finger to see if they’re married/engaged or not and prefers singles because “they don’t rush out of here to go see their family”. Needless to say my jaw dropped when he said it, but I took it to heart. I never wear my rings on interviews. JUUUUUUUST in case someone else thinks like him.
Post # 14
@hopefloats: That’s kinda funny.. I wonder if it would have made a difference in the hiring decision. I’d hate to think that employers really will chose one candidate over another because one is getting married!
@Porkchop: Yeah the poll seems pretty one-sided!
@bookworm88: I know, I’m kicking myself for planning a fall wedding :/ Oh well, it’s on Columbus day weekend, so hopefully I can just take a couple personal days the week before and postpone the honeymoon.
@bluebonnet: That’s true, I feel like I’d be lying if they found out later I was getting married. I guess it does make sense, and what a double standard for the guys!
Post # 15
@Nicoley1985: I’m not so sure either, but I didn’t want to risk it, I needed the job! lol