Job loss and Pending Proposal

posted 3 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
24457 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Honestly, I would wait. With the job market still shaky, it might be a little longer before she can get a new job. Plus, she will need that extra time working at a job to be able to take leave for the wedding and honeymoon.

Post # 4
2105 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I would still propose. If it were me, I would still want you to propose, especially considering you are fine financially, with or without her being employed.If she is uncomfortable with planning a wedding, you can always wait to set a date until she finds another job. Go with your gut, it is usually right.

Post # 6
1425 posts
Bumble bee

I would definitely go ahead with the proposal, especially if your income is enough for the two of you. Has she applied for unemployment?

Post # 7
185 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I say go for it!! It sounds like you have thought this through, are financially stable and are ready for this next step.  Looking for a job is stressful and this may be something to help her get her mind off of that and have something very exciting to look forward to.  

Post # 8
133 posts
Blushing bee

Strange, but almost the same thing happened to me about 2 years ago when I got engaged. I got home from work on a Friday and got engaged that evening. The next Thursday at work I got laid off. I was devastated becaue I loves my job. With everyone being so excited for me about my engagement though, there wasn’t enough time to mope around about losing my job! I was definitely upset about the job, but being newly engaged took my mind off of it and only made me look for jobs wven harder since I had a wedding to pay for!

I say definitely go for it and best of luck!

Post # 9
24 posts

Go for it!  I think it would help cheer her up and show you love and support her no matter what!!  

Post # 11
305 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@MakingHerWait:  I say do it.  My fiance lost his job a few months before we were engaged and I actually told him that we were going to roll with it just like if we were married.  You’ll have to deal with all kinds of blows like that in life so there isn’t any reason to wait.  It might give her some comfort and stabiility knowing that you’re there to help her up.

Post # 12
295 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I think it would be lovely to still go ahead – her job is completely separate to your relationship and I’m sure some positive news would be welcome in a week or two.

Good luck!

Post # 13
222 posts
Helper bee

I would propose definitely! You can work in a bit into your speech about how you are there to support her and be with her no matter how uncertain other things may seem. My fiance proposed with something similar, as I was about to start a new 1 year degree at uni and we would be very financially tight, but he said in his proposal that he wants to be there for me and support me no matter what, and it meant to much for him to say it at that time.

Post # 14
483 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Yeah definitely propose, it will be a real comfort to her in this stressful time. Marriage is, after all meant to be a safe haven. 

Post # 15
970 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

@MakingHerWait:  I would go with it. I supported my FI through a couple months of unemployment a few months after we moved in together. Then he had gotten a new job while waiting to be let back on….we got engaged….and FI got laid off from this job a couple months later with an unknown date of employment again. He started a new job a few months ago and loves it…and they don’t like layoffs – the last time they were on the brink of layoffs they jsut decided through a company-wide vote to cut out paid holidays. It might be a little light in her tunnel for the time being while she is unemployed. She will get something in no time I’m sure! Like previous posters have said – you two are in this together and you are more than willing to help support during this time…etc.  

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