Post # 1
Hi Bees. I’m graduating in a few weeks with my master’s degree and am starting to look for jobs. I did an internship over the summer and I’m not sure if I can use that boss as a reference. I went to work most every day (there was one where I was sick with a migraine) and my work output was good. A lot of my job applications are asking for references and I can’t decide if I should use it as one. It wasn’t a great work experience, but I did it for my resume. For one thing, the boss never communicated with me as to whether or not I was doing a good job or if there were things that could be improved upon. Second, she was never there, so my supervisors were often people who were fresh out of college (there’s nothing wrong with that, I was just led to believe that I would be mentored a little more so I could actually learn things). Third, they had a problem with their billing system and so I didn’t get my pay until the end of the summer. Finally, the day that was my last day as an intern, she was not actually there. I sent an email thanking her for the opportunity and work experience and I never heard back.
In short, I feel like she doesn’t like me for some reason. I tried to add her on linkedin as a litmus test and sent an email asking if I may use her as a reference. She rejected my linkedin request and I never got a response via email. This hurts my feelings so much because I worked hard, went a month and a half without pay, and got no feedback whatsoever. I have worked so hard for all of my academic and professional achievements so that I could get a great job someday. How do I proceed? Do I take this internship off of my resume? If a job asks for references, do I just give them different ones? I am so hurt and frustrated I don’t know what to do.
Post # 3
Thats a tough situation. I’ve had a similair experience with employment where I thought my supervisor didn’t like me or think I was competent. After I managed to finally get to speak with her it turns out she thought I did a great job and was more than willing to be a reference. Getting a reference is always kind of awkward, and to a lot of employers it doesn’t really matter to them if you have all the tools for finding employment because you’ve finished your business with them. If I were in you shoes I would keep persisting, and probably call you former supervisor and ask if she would be willing to be a reference for the work that you did. During that conversation I would make a point to mention specific projects, areas, or tasks that were your responsibility just to remind her of what you were doing there. In the chance that she refuses to provide a reference, I would track down former co-workers, or some of those other supervisors you mentioned and see if they are able to provide a refence. I wouldn’t take the internship off though, thats hard earned experience. I had been job searching recently, and had experiences on my resume that I didn’t have specific references for, and no one ever questioned why I didn’t have a reference for it. I think the point is that you have other solid references, and that they are all aware you are job hunting so they may provide you with the best possible tools you need.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t take it off your resume, especially if the experience helps you, but I wouldn’t put this woman as a reference. It doesn’t sound like she’d give you a good one.
Post # 5
I don’t look at references when I hire, I mostly look at their work history, employment length and first impression at the interview.
Having worked with different companies when I was younger, I saw way too many useless BS-ters around, i know a lot of them write their own references for their ex-employer to sign or they suck up so much to their boss they become friends.
Post # 6
@DuckEBee: Don’t take it off your resume, but don’t use her as a reference. Refusing your LinkedIn request and not responding to you are pretty clear signs to me that she would either not respond to someone asking about a reference for you or it would be negative. Sorry you are in that situation!
Post # 7
@hotpinkbride: Thanks for your advice. I just will list other references. So frustrating though. I think she may have disliked me from the start… Our interview was set for a Friday at 1:00. I showed up. And waited. And waited. Then waited some more for about an hour. Finally someone called into her office and she said that she didn’t have an interview at that time. I then got an email saying that she assumed I didn’t “want to continue with the interview process.” That wasn’t true and I showed her a screen cap of her email saying Friday at 1. That may be part of it. Sigh.
Post # 8
@Toro: That’s good to know!