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Thankfully, my parents spoiled me, so I don't have school loans to worry about.
I would like to find a job. You'd think with two degrees, it wouldn't be hard, someone would say "oh you are a black female engineer with two degrees? please let us fawn over you! you will meet our quotas".
But no. Everyone wants years and years of experience, or they're snooty because you didn't have a 3.9999gpa, or UGH. And what's with people not calling back? So rude!
Why don't I come home, my parents say. Worst idea ever. It's not a healthy place. Also, poor bf, he would have this whole big house to himself. My mom keeps calling with jobs that sound horrid, beggars can't be choosers, but I don't want to dread the job before I even start...
I was at a wedding this weekend, and totally did some "oh hai I am looking for a job" after butting into a conversation about something being either an engineer thing or a guy thing...
It also looks like the field to be in for this area is Nursing. Definitely not what I want to do, it was crossed off the list at 14.
It doesn't help that I think he's waiting for me to find gainful employment before anything else happens...
haha I totally hear you on the two degree thing...I also have two and no they don't care. Which is silly because when your in college professors love to tell you "oh you'll have no trouble getting a job with your two degrees". Haha I laugh now!
I also want a real job to take some of the pressure of FH and to help out more with everything and not feel so bogged down with loans - my parents helped where they could, thankfully, but I still have a heavy sum left for me to pay.
I too didn't think I could do nursing. I am terrified of needles!! But I had a diabetic dog (and although that is not the same thing as a human) I got used to giving her her insulin injections so maybe needles wouldn't be so bad (as long as they stay away from me)?
The job market is so tough right now that they can be choosy and want the ideal candidate with such and such years of experiecne (which I'm still confused on how you can get if no one is willing to give you a chance?) and X GPA. Sigh
ya, I feel like screaming.
My company closed a year ago.. and I am STILL jobless. I have my hands full with the 2 kids and luckily I have FI's income to help support.. but I just wish I could find a job already! Our area is on the top of the high unemployment list.. so that doesn't help matters..
When it was time for college: Oh you're a smart young black woman, they'll pay for everything!
When it is/was time for job: Oh they'll be all over you! You'll meet quotas and blahblahblah!
Today: Weddingbee is a good place to not job-hunt... >.>
Yeah, the no experience thing is a pain. The good thing is through BF, I at least can meet people at network so they will know of me if they have a job that fits...
I know I couldn't do nursing, I volunteered in a hospital for waaaaay too long, and realized that no, medicine wasn't for me.
It's just terrible.
@cobalt: I'm sorry to hear your company closed and your in such a tough spot! I'm glad you FI is helping to support but I understan your frustration.
@surkim: I am laughing like crazy right now because I too get side tracted on wedding bee. I look for a job and then log onto wedding bee forever and try to look for a job again. I'm just addicted to this site! I wish it was called JOB BEE!!! and was just as addictive :)
I feel like job searching is SUPER frustrating but it has the potential to change any minute. I looked for a job for about 8 months before I found my current one and then I had two offers in one week. Seriously, no offers at all... then all of a sudden two jobs pop up, I interview, and offers within a few days. It just happens so fast. Same with all of my friends.... they look forever and feel like it is neeeeever going to happen, until it does.
I know it is frustrating but just remember than any day could be the day you get that interview that lands you THE job :)
@corgi: I acutally had an interview with a company (happened suddenly like you said), had the job, was super excited, and then they lost funding for the postition :(. I was so upset because I had felt some sort of relief, that I was finally getting a 'real job' and then it was all taken away just as suddenly as it had come. So now I'm back to the long, often feels like never ending, task of looking for a job, FUN!
I feel ya, I need a "real" full-time job already that actually pays the bills!
I have been in this cycle of having a great job that I love, losing said job, and having to job search all over again for almost two years now. It doesn't help that I'm fresh out of college, so I'm always the first to go. Ugh, it has been so soul crushing!
Has anyone else been embarrassed about being unemployed? I feel like such a loser. I know that there a literally millions of people in my situation, but it just doesn't help me feel any better. When I'm meeting people I don't know, I should probably tell them I'm unemployed (hey, they might know someone who knows someone, right?) but sometimes I just want to lie because I'm so sick of talking about being unemployed!
Sending hugs to all my job hunting bees, hang in there!
I'm not really embarrassed, but annoyed. My family seems to think I walk on water or something, and it was sooo easy for them to find a job, I shouldn't have any problem, blahblahblahblah.
Yes, if I were willing to move away from bf, then I might have a tad more luck. Or, being in a smaller area, I might have more luck since most people end up in larger, busier areas that I don't care for.
I'm getting really tired of that disapproving look. Sorry the economy is crap and no one wants to hire me right now?
It is definately tough out there. I have experience (not a ton, but a few years) and it appears I'm under-qualified for jobs in my profession (architecture/design), that are asking for 5-10 years, but I still can't even find a job in retail - because I don't have any sales experience. I thought high schoolers could work retail?! And just a little vent - why does everyone think they know your profession more than you do? My eye doctor was explaining all the possibilities that were out there for people with my background during my last appointment...I guess I'm just tired of the advice from everyone.
Good luck to everyone on their searches!
I'm in the same boat. I have my degree, and yet here I am working 2 part-time dead-end jobs. I've been applying for full-time jobs for over a year, and have hardly had any interviews or calls. The crummy economy is really a factor. I'll apply for entry-level positions that any recent college grad should be hired to, and still no calls. I think it's because people who have tons of experience and lost their jobs are also applying for these positions. How can I compete with someone who has 20 years of experience?
@MissLoveBird: I think we are rocking the same boat here...That sounds like me to a T! And I do agree that so many people are bidding on the same jobs that those with experience, even if it is entry level, are going to have better luck.
I also fear that while we are spending X amount of years/months looking for a job that by the time the economy does pick up employeers are going to say we've been "out of our field" for too long since graduating. Ugh adding yet another frustration and factor into the what to do next category.
Well I am sending good luck to all of us!
yup. about to graduate in May, will have loans & 3 months to finish planning the wedding, and job search definitely isn't going to be on my mind & it should be :(
ugh I am hearing you ladies! I just got my masters in August and moved to a new city, thinking there would be at least some job prospects. So far not much, so I started volunteering almost 40 hours a week to gain that experience that everyone so desires. If your finances allow it, could be a good option for you.
I totally understand where you gals are coming from. Mr. Octo applied to 170 jobs and finally just got one. I applied to close to 50, with not one single call to interview, and got one totally by chance...I ended up walking into my veterinary hospital to drop off my resume and they interviewed me on the spot. It's rough out there. I was totally embarrassed that I didn't have one at graduation. Keep your heads up, ladies! I'm sending you well wishes and love from Raleigh!
I wish I could have gone to job fairs and everything like everyone else close to graduation but I just had surgery on my foot and I could not exactly come rolling up to a job fair being like "hey wanna hire me? I should be good to go in about 6 months!"...now could I? I ended up getting a great temp job after graduation (which had nothing to do with my major but it's where I met FH) that paid great and got me ahead on my bills, but that couldn't last forever and I was working over 60 hours a week so it made job searching that much harder. Now I'm looking and looking and applying and not getting very many interviews and its just a lovely mess.
I was just at the eye doctor and the guy who fit my new glasses was saying how is daughter, who is a lawyer in Boston, cannot get a job. Also, he said his son went back to school and his one professor said that they (the students) should be lucky that they are in school right now because by the time they get out there 'might' be something out there for them and how his son can't even get a part time job.
I'm lucky that I do have a part time job and I know I am not the only one out there having trouble....we are all facing the same situation no matter what our background. I hope it get's better for all of us in the very near future!!!
I'm in the same boat...been jobless since June.
Basically, this work life has gone like this
Graduated May 2006
Got my first job spring 2007 (temp job). Left August 2007
Started 2nd job winter 2007 (temp job). Left June 2009..yes, that was long temp job
So now its almost November and still no job.
I am SO sick and tired of this crap.
I honestly do feel EMBARRASSED. I was the kid at the top of their HS class, who went to one of the best liberal arts schools in the country. And I really have nothing to show for it.
I know its partly my fault. I'm indecisive, I'm shy, I doubt myself a lot. And I have NO idea what "I want to be when I grow up". I'll be 26 next week, but I don't know where my life is heading
:(
Yeah, I feel ya! I'm freelance writing, which means all that money just gets docked from my unemployment checks, so sometimes I wonder, "why even freelance? I'd get the same money and NOT have to work by just collecting my full unemployment!" But, it's good for the resume. Good luck in your job search! I'm applying to only one job a week to stay sane, and for six months now I've only had two interviews.
@luli29 - i graduated in 2006 also, had a job right out of school, and switched in september 2008 for my "dream job." said dream job lasted 6 months when they shut down the department. been on unemployment since then hoping for something. nada. i'm working part time right now in a dead end job completely unrelated to my career. i totally feel like you in that i keep debating if my career choice is even something i should stick with...suck tho as i still haven't paid off that education...
@sanddollar what do you have a degree in and what do you want to do.
I have my degree in biology and wanted to do research... Im fairly certain the only people to get research jobs, are people who have ahd research jobs, which makes no sense!!!!!!!
I run sleep studies now and its amazing and fun, but not what I want to do forever. Im still searching for a job I want, but I had to settle for this one for now so I can help pay for a wedding (my father is helping hugely, but he thinks im crazy for wanting things like OOT bags so Ill be putting up money for that), and buying a house.
haha I double majored in Marine Sciences and Biology and where FH and I live ight now I'm looking more in the biology field...also research!
I know that a masters or phd would greatly help in getting a research position but I am worried that if I go back I am going to be stuck inthe same position I am in now! So that's why I was thinking teaching. I also can't decide if I were to go back for a master's what I would want to study....stay with biology, do more environmental/marine, or GIS (which I loved in college and could go into fields spanning the sciences and business which might open up more windows).
Oh the frustration of having a useless degree. I finished university with a BSc (Hons) in Life Sciences but because 5000 other people graduated with the same degree, I couldn't get a decent job. I went back to school and finished off a very competitive three year program and then the recession hit so the hospitals were all put on a hiring freeze.
Things have gotten better and intereviewed for my dream position. I came out of the interview feeling great and thought it was a lock (my resume was tailored for the job). I get a call a few weeks later saying I was perfect but it was too competitive a field and didn't get the job. In the end, I later found out I didn't get the job because the others interviewed against were all buddy buddy with the interviewers! FUDGE!
I was lucky enough to be sqeezed into my former job but it totally sucks. I'm entering a job where I am not utilizing any of the skills and knowledge I acquired from all my schooling. My ego has been bruised beyond repair but I know the importance of a pay cheque and am basically sucking up what's left of my pride to work.
GL with the job hunt, really, I feel your pain.
I agree with you ladies! I'm still over six months away from finishing undergrad, and I'm already worried about getting a job market. I know that I need to take a year off to work (BF is in law school), but professors and advisors keep telling me to defer my existing loans, take out new loans, and go straight to a graduate program. If I don't find a job prospect in my intended career field before I graduate, I will be stuck in a very difficult position...and new college graduates aren't exactly the top choices for hiring in my field!
@SandDollar- are there any graduate programs with graduate assistantships included as part of the program? I don't know much about your field, but I know that many of the bigger universities have paid research assistantships or for-credit internships in the science fields- that at least would be a resume-builder while completing the program if you decide to work towards another degree.
Good luck SandDollar and all of the other ladies!
I've been laid off twice in a little over a year, so I feel your pain. Being unemployed is an emotional roller coaster - frustration, anger, embarrassment, and on and on. Hugs to you all.
I'm having an up week on the emotional roller coaster. I had a job interview Monday and I have a phone interview in an hour and a half. I would love to have this job, which of course means I'm so nervous I want to throw up. I really hope it pans out - I'll be so crushed if it doesn't.
I graduated with an honors nursing degree in 2007 and have a NYS registered nurse license as well as experience as an emergency medical technician. I would have never imagined being jobless to this very day, especially with the shortage of nurses. I have applied to any and every healthcare facility in NYC and Long Island. Since I lack clinical nursing experience outside of school clinicals - I am out of luck. Plus there are hundreds of new nursing students graduating every 3 months who are vying for limited new graduate nursing positions. Apparently, it costs the hospital $10,000 to train a new graduate nurse, so the outlook here is pretty bleak.
At this point, I am forced to give up on starting a rewarding career as a registered nurse. Being an unemployed bride-to-be is extremely stressful, but I believe things can only get better. Hope everyone can find a job soon.
I am a little relieved to come across this board, as I was convinced that it was just me and something I was doing or not doing. However, seeing how many educated ladies are in the same boat, I guess we just have to hang time and keep on sending those resumes. I got by BS in psychology and worked in a preschool as a teacher. I was very happy in the job but the low salary and constant stress left me wanting more. I completed a very competitive and demanding program in school psychology and received my national certification as a school psychologist. As part of the program requirement, I had to complete a full year internship in a school, which meant giving up my previous job and taking up waitressing to make some extra bucks. I completed all the requirements, including the internship, last may and I am now officially a full time .......... waitress!. I have submitted numerous resumes and got no responses. Although everyone has been supportive, I still feel like they think that I am doing something wrong. I don't know what to do... I don't want to be a waitress my whole life!!!
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...ucks! I can't stand it. A total rant here, but I feel totally lost like I'm never going to find a full time job and that there is nothing out there.
I'm so fed up that I am even considering just getting certified to teach high school biology/earth sciences because I know they NEED science teachers. However, teaching is something that I never thought I would want to do so I'm still not postitive that I want to do that! I also am tossing around the idea of going to grad school but I feel like if I do that, spend even more money on my already expensive education (I know we all have college bills but genius over here had to pick an expensive private school) that I'm just going to be in the same postition I am in now, only with at least a master's degree. That's also another reason why teaching is starting to become more appealing since I feel like it's more of a sure thing.
Ugh I'm so frustrated! Any other brides out there also feeling the semi-newly post grad pressure of getting a 'real' job without having much luck?!