Post # 1
This is something we’re considering. We hang out primarily with a mixed male/female group, so it seems kind of weird to splt the group in half. So, if you had one, did you regret it? Was it weird? What did you do?
Post # 2
We were planning to do this at first. Avenue Q was in town and we both wanted to see it so were were going to do that. However, it was a bit expensive to expect attendance from all our intended guests and I really wanted girl time. In the end, my separate bachelorette was nothing like I had wanted and I wish I had just done the joint dinner/theatre thing which DH and I did on our honeymoon and really enjoyed.
Post # 3
Laurenplusalex: we thought about it but honestly I just wanted to go out and get drunk and crazy with my girlfriends so we opted for separate. FI isn’t a big drinker and I didn’t want him to spend his bachelor party feeling like he had to babysit me.
Post # 4
future.mrs.koban: we kind of don’t do drunk and crazy, lol. We do low key small get-togethers
Post # 5
Laurenplusalex: then in your situation I think a joint one would vee perfectly fine. mine ended with blow up penises and we picked up this guy along the way (mine was at a Jason Aldean Concert).
Post # 6
Laurenplusalex: A friend of mine kinda did both. The boys and girls all went to Vegas, and we had one night we were completely separate, and one night we were together and had a nice dinner. It seemed like the best of both worlds.
Post # 7
Laurenplusalex: Another BM, GM, and I planned a joint bach for two good friends of ours. It was awessoommmmee! Having more people meant that we ended up in a party bus with a bigger budget and lots to talk about. It was fun having the girls and guys mingle — we weren’t interested in meeting new people and, like you, we’re all in a group that’s pretty close. Anyway, everyone really enjoyed it and I recommend it. FYI, we used PayPal in advance to collect money from everyone who wanted to participate.
Post # 8
My bff did the same as a PP mentioned – together one night and separate the next. It was really fun and worked out well.
For mine, it was completely separate but both of ours were in Vegas, at the same time. My husband and his friends rented a house off the strip and my girls and I were in a hotel.
Post # 9
We are doing this this weekend actually! We are all first starting to watch this funny improv show then afterwards splitting up to do our own stag and staggette thing. The girls and I will go off somewhere to dance and have some drinks while the guys are renting this music studio place to jam with their instruments while having some drinks too. We’re pretty excited about it!
Post # 10
We’re doing both. We have a hot of the same friends of both sexes and I would rather die than wear penis crap or do BJ shots off strangers. Plus we’ve both partied hard individually and together so a bachelor/ette party is no biggie for us. We’re doing a party bus and going out with all our friends. I wouldn’t want it any other way.
Post # 11
We didn’t have a joint party but in hindsight I wish we had. We also hang out with a mixed group so it felt a little strange splitting that group in half and partying without half of my friends!
Post # 12
We were similar to you in that we have a bunch of mutual friends. We did a 2-day thing where we separated and did separate day/night activities Friday and had a big joint party then next night with a joint brunch Sunday. It was awesome! If you only have 1 day you could do separate things during the day/dinner and all meet up for evening festivities.
we actually did a girls vs guys limo scavenger hunt around the city and met up at the same bar at the end. 🙂
Post # 13
Laurenplusalex: we are having a joint bachelor/bachelorette party. We rented a house in the hamptons for both of our friends. We met when we were young and grew up together and i think the more the merrier. We may spend one of those nights at a nearby bar or restaurant with separate groups but not sure yet. I cant wait!! Btw you wont regret it if its what you really want and i know my FI is my best friend so to have a separate party doesnt feel right to me.
Post # 14
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
Laurenplusalex: we did one and loved it!!! Same rationale, we’ve been together for over a decade, have basically all mutual friends, and it just seemed weird to split it up. Plus we’re both so busy and have fairly conflicting work schedules, so we already don’t do enough fun stuff together. He said it best when he was like “Why would I want to have a party with all my friends without you there?!?”
We did a weekend camping trip at a local river / reservoir with about 10 friends. It was soooo fun. We basically just swam, grilled, drank, played lawn games, etc. Played a few silly bach games like the guys dressing me and the girls dressing him in wedding finery made of all our camping supplies.
Post # 15
We didn’t have ours yet, but it is scheduled for February.mwe are doing a weekend cruise on the Norweigen Breakaway from NYC since we live in NJ. We figured there is a ton of stuff to do on the ship and hopefully everyone will enjoy it. A lot of the bridesmaids/groomsmen are married or live with a significant other and we figured it would be more fun for us to all go together. Also, FI doesn’t like sleeping apart from me as he says he gets a bad night sleep, so it was his preference to do a joint one as we’ll.